that boy is now with someone who doesnt deserve to be with him,i wish the best for him,but inorder to compensate for my loss he has stupidly got along with this not so good looking and not so much nice girl.he is making a big mistake,wanna save him but cant.what should i do just let go of him or do something about it..if yes what should i do?
i never let him get close to me coz i didnt want to open doors for dreams that can never come true.
im a religious person with a religious family,cant get past religious differences even if i like someone very much.
the problem is that he still has feelings for me.atleast ha shoud get over that so that i wont get a chance to think about him ever again
2006-11-23 20:39:48 · 8 answers · asked by Henna 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
That's a hard call Henna. My girlfriend is deeply religious (Christian) and I am not. We have different beliefs, but she is a wonderful person who has taught me so much, and she says the same of me. However, we both strongly feel that each individual must make up their own minds - so our kids, if there are any, can be raised Christian, but I will be sure to teach them the scientific method and theories, including evolution.
There's an old joke about a man in a house, and a policeman tells him to evacuate because the floods are coming. The man says no, the Lord will provide. The floods come, and the man is stuck on the second story of his house. A boat comes, offering a ride out, but again the man refuses, saying the Lord will provide. Later, the water is up to the roof. The man is standing on his chimney. A helicopter comes and offers him a last chance for escape. He again says no, the Lord will provide. The waters continue to rise and the man drowns.
In Heaven, the man stands before God and asks "What happen - I'm a man of faith, yet you did not provide. Why?" God replies "I provided you a policeman, a boat and a helicopter - what more did you want?"
The point being that you have no idea what God's intentions for you are - maybe it is right that you be with this boy, that you have something to learn from him and he from you. You are cutting him off because of your beliefs, ignoring the fact that God put the two of you together for a purpose that you cannot understand.
"...shall we discern therein any departure from those divine attributes which the believers in a Living God always ascribe to Him? ...so as was said three thousand years ago, so still it must be said 'the judgments of the Lord, are true and righteous altogether' "
2006-11-23 21:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by ZenPenguin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have no right to tell another person what to do under any circumstances. You have decided that religion is more important to you than him, that's fine, then leave him alone, you are only going to give him confusing messages and make him believe that he has a chance. Find someone you, your religion and/or your family find appropriate or be courageous and follow your heart, sorry you can't have it all ways.
2006-11-23 20:49:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Henna,
First let me tell you that i'm a believer in the Bible and the Bible teaches that when two people become married (which i am assuming would be your ultimate goal with this boy) that the two become one. What affects one person affects another and it is as if your two souls are knit together.
In that sense i think that difference in religions is something that should not be compromised on. It affects not only one another but it will also affect your kids-- ie: what religion do you teach your kids? Holidays, etc.?
I am not sure what your religion teaches, but i believe that God has a plan for everyone and his plan includes plans that will bring two people together to help them grow closer to Him and who can support one another. God brought Adam, Eve because he needed a helper and i think religious differences can make it hard for one person to support another at times- esp. when it comes to acting on convictions. It's one thing for a couple to have a difference of opinions because of personal preferences it is quite another thing when it is based on strong personal convictions.
i know it is not easy- but you have to believe that it would be for the best.
Hope that helps.
Kindly,
Nickster
2006-11-23 20:49:27 · answer #3 · answered by Nickster 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You rejected him because of religion and you have no say in who he sees or doesnt see. Back off and leave him alone. You cant follow him around his entire life and choose girlfriends for him.
2006-11-23 20:42:26 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to let religion decide who to love, than he deserves better than you.
2006-11-23 20:43:12 · answer #5 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
u have the responsibility of showing the rite path to a person who is astray ..!!! just tell him straightforward ... that u dont want be frnds with him ..but jsut wanted to tell u the rite thing at the rite time !
2006-11-23 20:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by terrorismbuster 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If that's correct there's plenty of boys in your religion you might find one soon. ;-)
2006-11-23 20:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by StuPenDus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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thanks
2006-11-23 20:41:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 6⤋