We've only been together 9 months and I am completely head over heels. He knows how I feel but when I asked if he loved me, he said he doesnt yet.
In his last relationship (which ended about 3 years ago), he said it took him almost 2 years to love her.
He did say that he feels more for me than he did for her at this stage in the relationship, and that he thinks he can love me
2006-11-23 20:31:58 · 16 answers · asked by punkrawkprincess81 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And for the record, he contacts me as much as I contact him, if not more so it's definately not one sided
2006-11-23 20:47:30 · update #1
You will chase him away if you pressure him on loving you. Quit asking him if he does. If and when he finally says it you will know it's his true feelings and that it wasn't because you forced him into saying it so he could get you to shut-up about it.
2006-11-23 20:43:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just don't fall head over heels quickly. They need time to become comfortable with someone and build trust and understanding before being able to feel certain things that come more quickly to other people. I've never really decided I loved anyone in under a year or two. I need to know them inside and out first. It depends on how you define love, really. To some people, you need to be in a place you can only be after a long time.
If/when he does say it, he'll mean it and it will mean much more than if he said it right away. When it's taken that long to grow, it will last a LOT longer.
2006-11-24 04:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by - 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its very admirable, you have been honest about your feelings and in return he has told you how it is. I would rather have a guy like that than someone who told you they love you just to keep you quiet. He may just be a very closed person who takes alot of time before he commits himself in that way, I presume you are happy to stay with him and things are well, i.e. he treats you right and you are happy with the relationship.
I would say just take everyday as it comes, if you do feel as much for this guy as you say you do then you should be patient. He will say it eventually, even if it takes him a while it'll be worth the wait! xx
2006-11-24 04:38:15 · answer #3 · answered by SARA H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love takes time to grow. He has been honest with you and you have to decide if love is an emotion that will develop over time. Actually, love is an emotion based on respect, trust and truth. So far you know that he has reached at least on of these elements. Good luck! The slower they move the longer it lasts.
2006-11-24 04:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by jodie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi there well what can i say but he is playing mind games with you ........after 9 mths together and he still doesnt love you ?? what but he says that he feels more for you than his last relationship at this stage than the last one ..........WELL LUCKY YOU !! what .....i realise that you have a lot of feelings for this guy but to me it seems very one sided you probably dont want to hear this but there are other guys out there that would love the ground you walk on with in 1mth never mind 9!! i hope you are aware of this and i know that you dont want to finish things with this guy ,but i cant help but wonder how does all the running and all the phoning and txtin ?? i bet its you ??oh sweatheart please dont let youre heart get hurt good luck and take care xx
2006-11-24 04:40:09 · answer #5 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to ask yourself that question really . . . cos if its not you need to get out now before you end up really hurt.
everyone is different and at least he is being honest with you. he could have lied and just said 'yes' when he didn't mean it. when he does say it think how amazing it will be.
2006-11-24 04:34:33 · answer #6 · answered by Empress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to tell you but he doesnt love you, he would have said by now. he never will love you. i have never felt love and probably incapable of it all i have is my gift as a sexual god to fullfill what emptiness lies in a womans heart. how do i know he doesnt love you, ask yourself why is he talking about a past relationship? you should be the only person in the universe the other girl should'nt even exist in his mind anymore.
2006-11-24 04:52:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
wow, at least he's honest.
most guys will lie and tell a girl they love her within the first month cuz they think thats what she wants to hear.
id really respect him for being different.
2006-11-24 04:34:57 · answer #8 · answered by sweetpea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check his 'rules' on what it takes for him to love a woman. Do not single out "he's gay" as a potential reason
2006-11-24 04:37:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My man said he loved me on our second date, we are still together 3 years on! its just a matter of time...dont panic!
2006-11-24 04:35:47 · answer #10 · answered by Unhinged.... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋