My sister is 2 years younger than me and I am 26, and today she cried in front of the family saying that she feels hurt by me becuz we are not close. She say that she wants us to have this tight bond and we dont and it bothers her. I agree that we are not close but i have no interest in being close with her. My sister was two faced with me for years and always thought she was better than me...........now that she is older and knows a little more about life and see that pretty girls make bad choices jus like so called ugly girls like me do-it has bought her down to reality a bit and now she wants to be close. I forgive her for all the stuff she did to me but i have no desire to be close with her. Also including the fact that we are so different and live different lifestyles. She like to always be on the go and I like to relax at home.
Am I wrong?
2006-11-23 19:37:30 · 12 answers · asked by exceptionallyexceptional 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I do talk to her. When I am around her we laugh and crack jokes, and every once in awhile we do stuff together and i feel thats enough and all that she can expect from me. I know it sounds mean but i dont want to be closer with her than that.
2006-11-23 19:50:19 · update #1
Actually, you are both right. She is right when she says that she feels hurt because you two are not close. Who are you to deny her what she feels to be true? Feelings are not based on facts and truths of historical circumstances. They are feelings. Don't look to deny others their feelings. You are right, too, when you state that you have a different life or different lifestyle than your sister. You are two different individuals so naturally you will do things differently, and with differences conflict is inevitable. You can resolve whatever conflict exists between you and your sister by talking to her more often. Communication doesn't by itself solve all the problems of the world but it certainly smooths out the bumps in the road.
2006-11-23 19:44:30 · answer #1 · answered by pcvcolin 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i have something very extrodinary to say and u may nto bleieve this. but i am more close to my sisiter who is 25 that i never met in my life, than my other 2 sisters, 15 and 27 who i do know very well. and u know why? because the other 2 i knowthought they where better than me too, and i dont push them away they just choose to be far from me, and u knowwhy cuz they told me cuz of age difference( i am 19, u can do the math on the ages lol) also cuz we lead different lives, where as the one i never met cuz she was put up for adoption, cuzweare more close cuz i am the only sistershe has (we are half, so are the others, so they are not related to eachother, 2 i know have same mom different dads, the one i do know has same dad different mother), also me and her are the only sisters who look alike since we look like our father, but she looks more like our dad then i do yet we look alot alike lol. i plan to meet her someday. well i think that u should talk to her more or tell her how u feel.
2006-11-23 19:43:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have every reason to be reluctant in sharing your life with her after what she has done, but for family's sake at least try and hang out with her a little bit. Even if your two lifestlyes are different, thats just part of what makes you sisters. Try and spend more time with her. If you are in need of an outfit or something, take the oppurtunity to ask her if she wants to go shopping. Or maybe if you are both at home, ask her if she wants to go to lunch or grab some pizza. Try and see this from the bright side, if she wants to be close, maybe you two can even share some fun times, who knows? Hang out with her a little bit more, and see if closeness can be fun for both of you! Hope it works out!
2006-11-23 19:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
life is too short, you don't want to hold grudges and regret what never was in the end. give your sister a chance so you can see for yourself if she has truely matured as an adult. I have 2 daughters who are almost 2 and almost 5...if they are not close as adults, it would break my heart. most siblings go through phases when they are teenagers, and even compete with each other. a friend of mine and her sister used to fight over everything, and couldn't stand to be near each other, but they are 22 and 24 now, and they are the best of friends..
if you've both matured, you should be able to let the past go and try a fresh start
2006-11-23 20:05:45 · answer #4 · answered by TaureanAngel 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Blood is thicker than water. This is fact of life. From reading your question, I feel you both are closed enough. Ask her specifically what she wants. Perhaps she just wants some attention. Advise her that you need some personal space. However, it would be nice if you could spend some time with her during occassions like Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year's Day. Good luck!
2006-11-23 20:08:04 · answer #5 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well...it's never too late, if she is sincere...but it is hard to trust someone when they have been so self absorbed for so long and forgotten you...now it seems that she needs people in her life and thinks that crying wil make it better...if she is truly sincere,...it isn't wrong to try to get closer...but when you have been burned, it is hard to just hop right in to things again...Give her some time, and if she truly is sorry and wants to make it up, you will know..I think you are right in the fact that you have been let down before, and don't trust her for that reason...it is alright that you don't want to be close to her as you are just protecting your feelings...go slow and try to repair the bad feelings...you might end up with a really good friend...
2006-11-23 19:44:47 · answer #6 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Neither of you is wrong nor right, do u think that your ugly? i hope no, so she has realized that she had a wrong perception and wants to apology to you. she has realized that your more important to her than her friends just accept her and be close to each other, remember you have a blood line that joining both of you. by not accepting her, symbolicaly you agree that your ugly. what matters is your inner beauty not body beauty which is temporary. forgive her and show your wisdom and inner beauty that she had missed when she was naugthy surprisely you will find that she is more loving and beauty than you had thought
2006-11-23 20:09:21 · answer #7 · answered by Bern 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think of you're good. (a foul dream) Or something could desire to be occurring that she's no longer telling you. She could desire to be getting bullied or something like that. She could desire to've considered a frightening action picture and retains seeing issues at evening? i'm 14 or maybe I nonetheless get scared that Chuckie or the chick from the hoop is going to stroll out of my closet and bounce me. whilst she wakes up in the morning ask her what she became terrified of and rational, calmly and logically communicate her out of it
2016-10-17 11:31:30 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, u are correct.Forget it and go to do something make u happy!
2006-11-23 19:42:34 · answer #9 · answered by jameslamyc 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah i mean you should atleast talk to her onece in a while and maybe go out to lunch if she buys.........lol
2006-11-23 19:41:31 · answer #10 · answered by lil mama 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋