My friend's boyfriend took her to some work function with business men all around and she got into a debate with one of them which resulted in the guy she was debating with insulting her class.Her boyfriend stood by and just took her off to another corner so she wouldn't make a scene.What would you have done?Would your answer be different if she hadn't tried to get into a debate?How would you react if the guy who insulted her was the guy who could give you a promotion or a position you're really interested in?What would you do?
2006-11-23 18:59:47 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some might think that this guy is a jerk or has no backbone for not standing up for his girl, but life isn't so simple. Perhaps he's smart enough to pick his battles. If someone was trying to hurt his girl, he'd probably beat the hell out of them (if he's a good guy that is), but if someone just said something mean to her, then it's not a life or death situation and he needs to think about what's the rational thing to do, like you said it could be someone his career depends on.
Plus think of it this way, you said that she got into a debate. So could it be that he took her to a work function and she got loud and embarrassed both herself and him by doing this? Maybe he did the most polite thing by taking her away and not scolding her in front of everyone.
Either way, I don't see this as a big deal. If your girlfriends' relationship is crap as it is, then sure, we could read into this as him not caring about her enough, but if it's an isolated incident, I wouldn't think about it twice.
By the way, if it bothered her so much, why doesn't she ask him to tell her what happened?
2006-11-23 19:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by yishor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tricky-I probably would have tried to defuse the situation. And make a comment that it isn't neccesary to go any further with the discussion as the two of you clearly disagree. Come on now, lets play nice and then take him/her to the corner. You only have one side of the story. She may have been fierce in her opinions and used a tone or body language that insulted the individual she had been speaking with. It's not acceptable, but was there alcohol involved? Work functions are tricky. I would be as diplomatic as possible. If the person was someone who was in a position of authority, I would be even more diplomatic. However, if that said person refused to settle down and continue with the insults I would deffinately stand up for my boyfriend in a proffessional manner, but I wouldn't cause a scene.
2006-11-24 03:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by apesee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this boyfriend of your friend was really a good boyfriend than he would have and should have stood up for her.
2006-11-24 03:02:08 · answer #3 · answered by wizard of stealth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Daayyymmmmm....
I dunno.
2006-11-24 03:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by King Kee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋