My ex and I were together for 3 years, and his bestfriend (who is a girl) is always the reason for our fights. I'm jealous of her that he gives her more attention than me when I am his girlfriend. He told me that he only thinks of her as a friend and nothing else. But he was always defending her and always fighting with me.
Now, he wants me back, but I keep telling him about the issue about his friend and he still don't get it. He doesn't think about my feelings and it just makes me want to cry.
Should I just let him go or stay with him but get into fights all the time?
2006-11-23 18:23:03 · 20 answers · asked by Tiny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its funny that you posted this because I am going through the same thing. I have told her over and over, but she never gets it. If you are looking to get over him, well, it just takes time. Lots of it. Good luck my friend. Be wiser the next time though. I know I am.
2006-11-23 18:26:38 · answer #1 · answered by EternalBlueMemory 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 04:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by Jesse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well alot of guys have girls as friends. If you feel like he is paying more attention to her then tell him that you should be his first priority when it comes to attention. Tell him if he can't show you that you are #1 on his list of priorities then you don't think that it will work out. Alot of the time guys don't even know that they are hurting our feelings by the things that they do & need to be reminded once in a while. And hey try hanging out with him & his friend. You might find that the two of you will be good friends also. Take care
2006-11-23 18:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by lori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer this..Has he ever given you a reason NOT to trust him? I recently just got out of a 4 year relationship, but I was kindof on the same boat as you. My ex's best friend was an attractive woman whom he'd known since childhood and it'd make my skin crawl when they'd casually go to lunch or talk on the phone together.
More than anything though, you must TRUST in your boyfriend. If he has given you any reason to suspect anything with his friend, then I'd say you probably need to sit down with him and talk about it, without it resulting in an argument. It took me a while to understand that my b/f's friend would never lead to anything more than a friendship. Try to give his friend benefit of the doubt, too. I got to know my ex's best friend, and it took me seeing to beliving that it was safe for them to be just friends..She may actually be a really sweet girl. Give her a chance. And don't break up with your boyfriend just to make a point. You will end up hurting yourself and possibly losing a great person.
2006-11-23 18:44:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not jelous.
Meaning, you were probably not inlove with the guy in the first place. So if you still think that the fights are worth furthering your relationship, by all means, go for it.
But the best way to get rid of feelings is seperation. And of course, good ol' time.
2006-11-23 18:29:39 · answer #5 · answered by abcdefgh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were right to end things because if you hadn't then things would still be this same.
would you want him back and know that you would be unhappy or would you risk this to find someone better?
accept him only if you know that things will change. if not, then break it up again. if he really loves you, he would change for you.
so how do you get over? there's no easy way. but try reading 'He's Just Not That Into You.' it humorous and makes a lot of sense. it helped me get over my ex too. good luck ;)
2006-11-23 18:44:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The short version, sit down with him and find out what you think he saw in this friend of his. Once he knows, ask him if he still cares about you or if he'd rather be with her. Make sure that you make it clear to him that you still care about him, if you still care about him.
2006-11-23 18:29:20 · answer #7 · answered by wizard of stealth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, if he wants to have a friend that is a female, then it is his choice. i cant believe that the relationship lasted that long, i wouldnt date a person that wouldnt let me spend time with my friends. let him go, either he is cheating on you, or you dont deserve to have a relationship.. but also maybe both.
2006-11-23 18:26:01 · answer #8 · answered by David 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try one more time to get the reason of your fights into his brain. if he disagrees or doesn't get it....move on. if he understands and promises to respect you more, give him another chance.
2006-11-24 09:24:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a matter of the heart. we dont know him or you every situation is different. realize that people follow patterens eith live with it or move on.. life is short
2006-11-23 18:25:25 · answer #10 · answered by canadianchipndales 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋