i have a friend..he likes me [wants to b wit me] but i cant ever c myself wit him..he has asked me out b 4 and i said, "no your my really good friend and im afraid that if we go out it will mess up our friendship." and he still didnt get it .so he told my other friend that he was goin to ask me out again some time soon.soo what do i do?
2006-11-23 18:19:44 · 21 answers · asked by latina beana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just as you have it in quotations.
2006-11-23 18:20:34 · answer #1 · answered by EternalBlueMemory 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
can't blame him for not giving up. least he's trying. some guys don't take no as an awswer they think to themselves i'll give her time she'll start to like me then i'll try it again. and sometimes that does work too. but in your case you still haven't changed your feelings about him.. Since your both close and you have told him b4 this. I think next time your out with him just you and him privatly not in front of any of his friends say you know Joe ( what ever his name is) I think we make a great pair as far as friends go we have a great time together and i really cherish our friendship but i dont' see this going beyond friends you know. I think your great but not in that way. and hopefully you let him down easier and not hurt him. the first time didn't work so you might have to be more serious in the tone but still being polite. and then make sure you continue to do your friendship thing with him and he'll feel comfortable again. hopefully if he dissapears on you then he really did like you all this time and was hoping you'd come around and his heart can't stand just being friends with you . so for him he has to stop seeing you. understand that and don't push him he knows how he feels and if he can handle it
2006-11-24 02:54:10 · answer #2 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey latina beana~
This situation can be complicated!
Look if this guy is such a nice guy as you say, then just tell him that you would like to be just friends and you dont think youll change your mind anytime soon. Tell him that if you were interested, then you would have already told him. So he can be reassured that you Are not in any way interested. Casually mention how you think guys who keep asking girls out are a little obsessive and not attractive at all(in the nicest way possible(:
If he is a friend worth keeping, then telling you would like to keep being friends and maybe you can introduce him to someone new. Be a good friend and be supportive.
Good luck!
Peace
2006-11-24 02:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you aren't interested in him in that way and that you hink that you guys have a great friendship. Also you aren't interested in going on a date with him but if he wants to hang out cool.If he still doesn't understand that then he doesn't want a friendship because maybe at first he didn't want that then he isn't a friend to you and you should break off your friendship. If he doesn't want to be your friend but more then you shouldn't carry on thinking that you are his friend. He has then come to you in a faulse manner. Just tell him how you feel and make sure that you are firm when telling him this with no laughter or giggles just straight forward.
2006-11-24 02:30:19 · answer #4 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you only want to friends.
But I will leave you with this--really strong relationships are built on friendship. So dont completely write this guy off.
You could go out with him once and maybe that will take care of the problem since coming right out and telling him did not
2006-11-24 02:24:49 · answer #5 · answered by firefly06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Describe to him a guy you like and ask for advise how to woooh this other guy? That should deflate his attempts to change the status of your friendship. Just make sure he's really into you before you say something dumb. I asked girls out without any plans to have sex nor become romantically involved. Well 25% of the time.
2006-11-24 02:23:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for him to ask and just say the same thing once more. He's bound to get it. Make sure he knows you're not just playing some hard-to-get game. If he's such a good friend he should understand.
2006-11-24 02:21:44 · answer #7 · answered by TodboT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him just like that say Hey i dont like you like that but he probably wont be your friend any more because if you tell him that a relationship is hopeless he will move on to some one else
and disassociate with you because it would be just to weird to hang out with you with you both knowing he has a crush on you.
2006-11-24 02:25:09 · answer #8 · answered by *ACDC* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the same as the quotations indicate. What part of that is he not going to understand?
2006-11-24 02:23:13 · answer #9 · answered by Gnome 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not using I DONT LIKE YOU maybe change the wording it could be easier to say.
2006-11-24 02:26:28 · answer #10 · answered by flooringwholesalers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him look i like you and all but my type and your type don't normally work out in relationships so why even risk our friendship(or something along those lines)
2006-11-24 02:24:27 · answer #11 · answered by cassandra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋