I'm 21yrs old and I'm still a virgin...It's just that I want to wait for marriage. I have alot of things going for me and I really don't want to worry about getting pregnant or catching something. Plus I want to give that to a special person who i love. It just seems that every guy i talk to just have sex on their mind. I want to have a good conversation about other things not just talk about how much he wants to bang me. I want a boyfriend but truth is that if there no sex, then there is no chance of that...plus if there is no sex im sure he's gonna cheat on me...and what are my chances of finding a virgin my age and who is willing to respect my descision.
2006-11-23 17:08:50 · 11 answers · asked by SEXYCHULA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most guys usually look for sex with their girlfriends, thats like the eternal truth. And it is difficult to judge a guy when you know him since only a few days. The best thing to do is before you decide hes going to be your boyfriend, check the kind of friends he maintains, his life style, his habits. Try and find out as much as you can about him. If hes the extreme fun-loving kind of a guy, the kind that doesnt care a dime about the rest of the world... chances hes probably going to make you sleep with him within the next couple of days.
The intellectual class of guys... usually they are safe kind of guys whom you could trust to a good extent, they are people who usually talk about everything under the sun and like to stick to their books and not to girls. Sex would most probably be a compulsion for them after wedding, but a waste of time and energy before wedding. But then again, there are those starved nut-cases you dont know about who might just suddenly start showing a keen interest in your body than your books and conversation.
So baseline... you just have to take the chances if you really want a boy friend and find out the right guy for yourself, just play safe.
Then again, when all the guys have sex on their minds when they are around their girlfriends, how much of a chance do you really have of finding a Virgin after hes 15 ???
2006-11-24 04:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, there are guys out there who are very respectful of this type of decision. I have dated a few great guys who never pressured me into anything I didn't want to do. We were in love, and we did other physical things, and I guess it was good enough for them. And I'm talking about relationships that lasted years! I'm sure you will find a man who loves you for who you are and respects your decision, even if he isn't a virgin himself. It's awesome that you want to wait till marriage!
2006-11-23 17:22:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your standards I say. Dont lower them or compromise for someone else, the right person will respect your decision. You sound like a nice girl, and a nice guy will notice that! And btw nothing wrong with being a virgin at 21!
2006-11-23 17:19:24 · answer #3 · answered by Flumma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sure hope there are good guys out there that will respect you. I think that there are. Are you religous, b/c if u r then u might be able to meet someone with your same values at a function or something. I give you soooo much respect for waiting, it will be worth it. Never, ever go against your morals for anyone!!!!!
2006-11-23 17:27:43 · answer #4 · answered by pink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL! I am 19 and in the same exact situation as you!
It seems like all guys are horndogs and only think about sex...but there are a few good guys out there. I just want a guy who respects me and my decisions, yet doesn't go running around on me either because I don't put out.
I just figure God has a plan for me, as He does for you. So, He has the right guy in mind for me and He does for you too. We just have to be patient and trust in His good and perfect plan!! :)
Props to you for saving yourself!!
God bless! :)
2006-11-23 17:19:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 19:36:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. Stick with it. The world could use more people with some character and conviction. And yes, he is out here somewhere.
2006-11-23 17:13:29 · answer #7 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for you. If YOU have no respect for the guys, how in the world you can expect them to respect you? How? You get what you deserve.
2006-11-23 17:26:20 · answer #8 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are hard to find. I've watched many of my female friends go for *******. I don't know if ******* have some good pheromones or what, but women go for them! It takes good instinct, and luck!
2006-11-23 17:17:21 · answer #9 · answered by oneworld09 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think your odds are slim to none and slim just left
2006-11-23 17:17:52 · answer #10 · answered by dan t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋