I want to know why many girls like the badboys and asss holes and pricks. It pisses me off to one end. This one guy I know is very ignorant and rude to the girls, but some how they like him. I remember when I was in highschool many years ago, me and my friend met this girl at almost the same time. He was swearing and everything. He was a gothic type. His mind is always in the gutter, but some how the girl chose him. WHY! WHY! WHY! He even got to kiss her at the chess tournment that are school went to. He treated her with total desrespect. This guy was even into drugs at the time. I on the other hand was polite and kind to her. My friend also knows this one guy thats the same way, and he gets tons of girls. He's totally disrespectful and puts them down, not joking ether. He also sleeps around with many of them, which I don't feel is right. Im nice to the girls and I respect them like I should. What am I doing wrong. Do I have to turn into a total asss hole for girls to like me.
2006-11-23 17:00:43 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm a girl.
I don't know why some girls do. I definitely don't. It doesn't make sense to me.
Please don't change yourself for girls like that. You're a nice a guy and deserve a SMART girl who knows better.
2006-11-23 17:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some girls think that guys like that are hot. Not sure why. It could have to do with self esteem....on both sides....most guys that act like that either think too highly of themselves or trying to hide some inadequacies. And some girls don't think they can do better. Though I did like this guy that acted hard but really wasn't.....he just seemed like an asshole until you got to know him. Some girls feel the need to "save" or change a man. So they think of the assholes as a challenge sometimes....but at the same time they kinda secretly like the harshness. Hell..maybe it's a turn on. Nothing like a shag fom a bad boy to get the juices flowing ;) Seriously though if I were you I wouldn't stress over the girls that are too stupid or have too much emotional BS going on to put up with that and find someone that can appreciate a good thing. You shouldn't have to change who you are. Chicken heads get annoying after a while anyway.
2006-11-23 17:15:34 · answer #2 · answered by bepatrice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't change who you are, but realize that you might be going after the wrong types of girls (the ones who only want the bad boys). I have always gone for the bad boys up until I got ahold of one who was too bad... I got my fill. Now I appreciate a nice guy and that is all I want. I have no idea why we go after the rough type... maybe a little because they seem to be the type to stand up for something when needed. If you are the type to shy away from confrontation or let people walk over you the that could be the very reason right there. If that's not the case then hang in there and you will find the one that fits you.
2006-11-23 17:05:45 · answer #3 · answered by rayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We like to be abused....why I don't know. I dated a guy that was a a__hole....Our relationship was on his terms when he had the time. I was lucky to see him once a week. This lasted about 9 months then..I had, had enough. I went to his house on afternoon and ended it. know almost 2 years later, he likes to pop up from time to time. It is funny how they realise what they have lost once it is to late. I am engaged to a wonderful man and there is nothing he can do about it!!!! To bad so sad. Why do we do it.....I DON'T KNOW.. Live and learn, these girls are draw en to something with these men, they will get past this. Keep being the wonderful person you are and in the end the good guy always win's!!
2006-11-23 17:14:56 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok stop listening to girls who say - be polite, she doesnt deserve u , ul get the girl that deserves u & all that usual crap. So the question why ur friend got so many girls although he was a prick?
-Answer:-
-He must be hot & tall
-His rude charector comes out more as a confident charecter
-His careless/bad attitude gives girls the excuse of not to worry (/or embarrass)about asking for a kiss or sex (assuming hes already hot). And the girls can get what they want and get done with it without too much embrassment and effort (since he`d careless).
-Girls obviously wont choose him for a long term relation, and more likely choose you, but unfortunately they`l chose him for a quick swing.
-My suggestion - Try to improve on ur looks (Im tired of listening to girls who say looks dont matter, they just dont accept it). Be (ACT) confident, make them feel comfortable & make them laugh. Good luck!
2006-11-23 22:37:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just came out of a three yr on again off again with one of "those" In fact, We have a 2 month old daughter as well, who he denies and wants no part of. (that's beside the point) I knew he was moody and such before,(I have known him for 8 yrs now. ) He liked from afar for yrs and secretly sent me flowers for my birthday to my house with no name on the card. Showed up @ my house to profess his feelings to me. Everything was good for about 4 months and wham what a jerk. (I must say at his defense that he suffers from depression, still no excuse.) The reason I stayed was I fell MADLY in love with him and he could be very good for awhile and a right a***hole the next. He could be so awful but I stupidly couldn't stop my feelings, sad to say. Answer, NO! You don't have to. It baffles me why we do. Stay a "good" guy and a decent "right" girl well hopefully come along.
2006-11-23 17:20:56 · answer #6 · answered by 3000gthottie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this answer is going to get totally blacklisted by the female contingent but that's cool. Women seem to have this ridiculous fascination with the so-called bad-boys. I don't know if it's the crap they put in Cosmo Magazine or the stupid Hollywood stereotypes of what constitutes excitement and adventure. Yet, these are the same women who *****, carp and complain that there aren't any "nice men" out there. Truth is they wouldn't know how to find them, because the media glamorizes the coolness of the asshole.
2006-11-23 17:12:41 · answer #7 · answered by Rckets 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because she thought you were too good for her. Females have it tough, don't let us fool you. We are CONSTANTLY judged by ourselves, our families, our friends, teachers...there is no end to it. Usually we are judged very harshly and it takes years for a female to realize that she IS better and deserves more than she thought she has. It's about then we earn the title woman and figure out nice guys are not better than we are, just better than what we have let ourselves have.
Also, we end up marrying what we are not used to, the guy that is not like all the others, so that bodes well for nice guys getting the girl that liked bad boys, doncha think?
Good luck!
2006-11-23 17:08:25 · answer #8 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
..because, to most girls polite and kind is boring. When girls mature and get sick of being treated badly they'll see that the bad boys aren't worth it. Don't change. Don't become a jerk. Your time will come.
I used to go for the bad boys until I got so sick of it- I found a wonderful man who is the complete opposite of everything I ever had before and I am blessed to have found him..
Chin up! Don't become another jerk.. Besides, you don't want they girl who always falls for the jerks anyways. They don't deserve you..
2006-11-23 17:06:39 · answer #9 · answered by bellagirlinchicago 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dont do what your so-called friends are doing girls dont like a holes but some girls do like bad boys. I don't tho you sound like a sweet guy keep doing what your doing and the girls will like you just dont try to hard.
2006-11-23 17:04:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls who let guys treat them like that are STUPID. So there you have it. Would you rather want to be with a STUPID girl or would you rather wait and find a sweet and intelligent one that appreciates you? Why would you want to turn into someone you are not just to impress a STUPID girl? Stay true to yourself! Be a gentlemen; I am sure there are plenty of girls that will appreciate you in time.
2006-11-23 17:09:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋