Hello. I'm in a great relationship. It has been wonderful from the beginning. Since my boyfriend professed his love for me he has told me he loves me after every phone conversation, every parting, and just because. I always reply with the same and I too will tell him I love him without him telling me first. For about a week now I noticed that he only says he loves me after I say it first. Yesterday I didn't say it at all thinking he'll surely say it before we get off of the phone. He didn't. Then today we spent the day together. Everything seemed as normal as always. But, again tonight when we spoke before bed he again didn't tell me he loved me. It's almost like he is trying not to say it. Nothing else has seemed to change in our relationship. Does anyone have a clue as to why he could be doing this? We are both in our 30's but I feel like a teenager worrying with fear. I don't like it one bit! Could it really mean that he really doesn't love me anymore?
2006-11-23 16:51:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Those 3 words can be important and once you get used to hearing them, you're used to hearing them. However, men can get comfortable and confident that you KNOW it, so they don't have to SAY it.
That part is true.
I think he still loves you and I think you're reading too much into it with him not saying it. He may have a lot on his mind right now and not worried about it because you should know it.
You say nothing else in the relationship has changed. Those words shouldn't mean so much to you that the absence of them makes you question the man. If everything else is the same, so is his love.
Cut him some slack. Wait a week. If he's still not saying them, just let him know you miss the words. A simple, "Baby, I miss hearing you say, 'I love you.'" will probably do the trick. Give it some time though.
2006-11-23 16:59:40 · answer #1 · answered by Infamous B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get him in a public place and tell him straight forward that you are not taking the chance on being beaten on again and he is to no longer try and contact you and if he does you will file a police report or harassment. If he does then contact the police and file the report and tell your parents of the problem asking them to contact his. If the other (new) guys gets real friendly tell him you'd like to date but you've got a few loose ends to straighten up and set a date for about a month to make sure the goon is gone for good.
2016-03-29 07:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be that he is unsure about your love? Maybe he is feeling that you dont really love him the same way he does so he is afraid to say it. Try showing him more affection to show him that you do..OR, some guys feel that since they say it alot of times in the beginning of the relationship, you(the girl) should already KNOW that he loves you and he doesnt have to say it alot anymore..my ex was like that too..after a few months, we rarely said the L workd anymore because it goes wthout saying..so perhaps your bf is the same too in this situation..try the more affection and see how it goes..good luck!
2006-11-23 16:58:44 · answer #3 · answered by honeyz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi im in my 30's and ive been through this, at first we go through the lovey dovey stage ,,, like it's all new and wonderful, guys think different to us, don't worry, sounds like you guys are onto the next stage.... where they start taking everything for granted..lol it's all normal , don't fret, look for the ways he's showing you how he loves you and don;t be offended when he doesn't say i love you all the time, his mates might be giving him a hard time cause he's so devoted to you,, my bf pulled back a bit cause of that it's an ego thing, so don't worry
2006-11-23 17:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if nothing really truly has changed about your relationship, I would think that perhaps he doesn't feel like he needs to say it all the time just to prove he still does love you. It is nice to hear it, but it doesn't have to be said all the time for it to be true.
2006-11-23 16:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by zyllee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh dont' worry about it first i want to knwo if both of you ppl truly love together.
i am not sure on tt so check to see if he truly loves for you or jst playing of for fun.
( A love is full filled when two parties truly express their love to each with their heart and brain together not only with their heart nor with only their brain)
2006-11-23 17:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by Hugo Afkhar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, yeah this has happened to me before and i worried about it just like you. To be honest, i think you ought to be very cautious about the fact that he may be thinking of breaking up with you and just hasn't gotten the courage up to do it yet. I mean this has been my experience.. i hope you have better luck though.
2006-11-23 16:55:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please give the poor guy a break... he does nto ahve to say it every time... but it amy also be he is protecting himself becuase he jumped in too far too quickly... so talk with hi tell him your feelings.. men undertsand this.. thsi ofcourse depends if you or you bf are over 18 in the first place!
2006-11-23 16:54:11 · answer #8 · answered by James A 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hes probably got things on his minds, its only been some days, relax....
just wait a few more days and ask him about it, but not in a clingy way, just in a normal conversation kind of way
2006-11-23 16:54:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO.... u r being too imaginative.... u hv to spark ur relationship with some remedies.... like go for dancing classes together.....play badminton......enjoy movies
2006-11-23 16:54:11 · answer #10 · answered by broken_heart 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋