my mom is an addict and she want get help,well anyways . she was going to come to my house for thanksgiving, i didnt want to wait all day to go get so i said forget it, well my brother who is also a druggy, has been calling me be a jerk, and says stuff like why haven t i called to say happythanksgiving well no one called me what do i need to do shut them off or forgive them, i a christan so they like to down me, please help me.
2006-11-23 16:50:27 · 9 answers · asked by babylove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well u said it, your the christian so set the example.I know it's hard, my sisters a druggy, but you gotta love them regardless and put up with their crap, but does not mean you let them use you, but your the good one so make the first call.If she wants help , help her.
2006-11-23 17:25:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to go with the tuff love approach and shut them out until they receive help. They are probably very cruel to you because they feel you will always be there and will love them unconditionally. It's very ... VERY common. Hang in there. It's hard to take that step but I know you're strong enough to do it. Good luck and God bless!
2006-11-24 00:55:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could do an intervention for your mom and brother and if they dont want to help themselves then you cant save them. they need to want it and its not your fault if they dont and you cant save them. also when they are putting you down the drugs are talking not their trueselves. so, if you need to shut them out in order to get on with your life then do it...if you have kids do you really want their grandma doped up infront of them?
2006-11-24 01:11:28 · answer #3 · answered by Jessy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone says something about me not calling them... I point out that the phone works two ways. :o)
Let it go. Some people have their own issues and you can't do anything about it.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-11-24 00:52:52 · answer #4 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to take care of your self first to maintain you sainty especially when you have abusers in your family..........even if that means not going to thanksgiving or calling......they talk down to you because they feel bad about themselves and their behavior.im sure it does hurt because they are your family but.....you have to remember they arent dealing with a full deck.
2006-11-24 00:58:06 · answer #5 · answered by lilme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you love them but you need some time away from them.
2006-11-24 03:29:22 · answer #6 · answered by Cyncyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every Family there is a problem
Will me alright
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2006-11-24 00:54:17 · answer #7 · answered by sndn_03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree wit sue!i bet u had the dayy planned out wit u'r mom too, thats sux
2006-11-24 01:12:52 · answer #8 · answered by pixy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the cops on them to turn them in... or just move on and forget about them..
2006-11-24 01:31:48 · answer #9 · answered by c t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋