We were living with them, and moved out, right next door. His step mother disciplines our son and tells me what kind of groceries to buy and even where to buy them. His father told my mom that I was lazy and did not do anything to help around the house. They both criticize my husband and I constantly. We decided not to spend thanksgiving with them and told them we were going out of town. His stepmother even had the nerve to ask why we did not come over to their house anymore. They are so intruding on my husband and I. Any suggestions on what to do?
2006-11-23 16:44:42 · 7 answers · asked by hibiscusdreamer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why the heck did you move next door to them then?? Move away! Geez, even if I got along fine with my hubbys parents, I would still put some distance between us..
2006-11-23 16:50:27 · answer #1 · answered by bellagirlinchicago 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would try to move farther away,every married couple need their privacy,His father telling your mom that you were lazy was none of his business.Everyone has their lazy time,I don't care who it is.That is why people want privacy,if they are so nosy,leave a note around your house where they will see it,pretend like you were writing a letter to a friend or something.Tell your fictional friend in the letter that while you love you in laws,(that will make them feel bad) you never feel adequate enough.Tell you fictional friend that you just love their son and want to get along with them.You have your own family and would like to have the privacy and the privelege to raise your son on your own.
Write in the letter that you wonder if they had someone who told them what to do when they were married.Leave it where the nosys will see it.Tell your firend you are thinking about moving far away,if they read it maybe they will back off Good luck sweetie
2006-11-23 16:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by joeandhowie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE! This is way to much stress on your marriage. Inlaws are only to offer anything when it is asked. Unwanted and unmerritted advice or discipline is way out of line. Take some time to think how to word it and then do it. Stand your ground because it sounds like they are taking ground. Become bold for your family stand strong and say that is enough. This is your marriage not theirs. Good Luck!
2006-11-23 17:35:41 · answer #3 · answered by Stretch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THAT'S A VERY WRONG DECISION YOU MADE,MOVING NEXT DOOR TO HIS PARENTS??? I LIVE THREE BLOCKS AWAY FROM MY IN LAWS AND THEY STILL BOTHER ME EVERY TIME SO I DECIDED TO MOVED TO ANOTHER COUNTRY. AND GOOD FOR ME.IN LAWS ARE ALWAYS THERE THEY WON'T CHANCE A BIT THEY WILL MEAN FROM THE START THEY WILL BE MEAN TO THE END LOOK AT ME 28 YEARS OF MARRIAGE AND STILL THEY ARE MEAN WITH ME.I ID TRIED A LOT TO BE NICE WITH THEM.I HELP THEM FINANCIALLY AND IN OTHER FORMS OF HELP BUT NO CHANCE STILL.TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND ABOUT IT IF YOU CAN MOVE TO A DIFFERENT PLACE.
2006-11-23 16:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by jocelyn o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move to a different city if possiable, rather go to a different far away State, it is essential to save the relations what so ever.
2006-11-23 18:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by observer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't you ever watch Everybody Loves Raymond. What did you go and move next to them for? Hopefully they own the house you are living in and you don't have to pay for it. Otherwise MOVE!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-23 17:13:25 · answer #6 · answered by CuervoBMed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let them know whats up....have a sit down...dont be scared cus they dont know what they are doing if they keep on doing it!! if you dont put a stop to it, someones gonna get hurt or go to jail!!
2006-11-23 16:48:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋