I am a really nice, smart, attractive girl, but every guy I have ever dated is crazy about me, mentioning things like marriage and a future, and then after awhile they tell me that they don't want to be "official." But then when I try to be just friends, they act jealous and even try getting back with me...but of course not commit. Usually they say I'm too good for them or something like that (which sounds like crap to me). Why do they act like this if they say I am such a catch and then can't leave me alone?
2006-11-23 16:43:56 · 13 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its game to get the draws and to have u to themselves.
2006-11-23 16:55:37 · answer #1 · answered by brit_m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People treat you the way you allow them to. Sounds like you're not giving them incentive and giving them you by listening to promises without proof. Don't ever convince someone to make a commitment to you. Someone has to decide that for themselves. Of course they come back you're a great girl but you allow them to come back and play games with you. Let them all go and start over. The guy who really wants you will give you everything you need without the drama, games and mind trips. He'll rise up to meet your expectations immediately because he wants to be worthy of you. If they truly thought you were too good they wouldn't take the chance of losing you. They would make sure you never thought a second about moving on or seeking another relationship rather than you sitting alone being this good person and compromising your happiness.
2006-11-23 16:51:50 · answer #2 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are great. That was a well thought out question and I hope that I can come up with an answer that comes close to the insight that you have managed. I am sure that you are gorgeous, more attractive that you are letting on for sure! You seem like you have a great personality... maybe we should go out?
Hook up? Make some hanky panky?
whew! FINALLY GOT IN THEM SEXY THONGS YOU WEAR!
Well, I just want to be friends ok?
I'll call you tomorrow. No, don't call me.... I'll call you....
2006-11-23 16:47:27 · answer #3 · answered by cruddypantz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The men want to have you exclusively without a commitment and find you beautiful. Beautiful women drive men crazy. Older men are ready for commitment and hopefully more mature.
2006-11-23 16:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by Dennis Fargo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im not really good with relationships, so im going to take a stab at it. I think its becouse the guys you are dating don't know what they truly want. They want to date a bunch of woman to see who is their type. Some of them may be hyper or immature and don't want to settle down. Basicly they don't want a commitment becouse they would be time down.
2006-11-23 16:47:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys treat you like crap, because you like the bad guys. If a real nice guy treated you real good, you probably won't like em. You definately wounldn't give him any play because you know you aren't really attracted to him. You are attracted to guys who like treating you bad...You have a bad boy complex.
2006-11-23 16:51:23 · answer #6 · answered by Laughing Man Copycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well from a guys point of view, if you are all that you say then it is them. a real man would realize what he had and go thru with the things that he had perviously said. obviously you are to good for the slackers you've been dateing. only thing i can suggest is to try to find a real man that can take you for who you are and cherish you as you should be.
2006-11-23 16:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh hun, we have the exact same problem!!!! can i share my personal opinion with you? i just think that they like you so much, that they're scared that they can't give you everything they know you deserve. but i really can't come up with a solution to it. but when ya find one will you let me know? now at least you have an idea anyway.. sorry if it wasn't much help.
2006-11-23 16:49:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are dating boys. If you are ready to date a man, you should look for a man next time.
2006-11-23 16:46:33 · answer #9 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are attracting the wrong type of men. Keep looking... step up your standards... you will meet MR. Right.
2006-11-23 16:50:22 · answer #10 · answered by smsinga 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋