So I've been interested in this guy at work for a while, he's actually the one who trained me in, and I was instantly attracted to him. He's a great guy, not to mention a certified massage therapist (however, he's the IT guy at my office), and the best part is, he's a Christian, which is a big thing for me. However, I'm 22, and he's 36...14 years older then me. Other people at work say that he and I click and have chemistry together, and I'd agree, but I've never gone for anyone more then 8 years older before...so I'm not sure how to go about this, or if I should just drop it and move on. Any suggestions??
2006-11-23 16:40:00 · 19 answers · asked by joyfulspirit_2002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's a big age difference, but I think it could be workable. The greatest obstacle might be your own maturity as you are a bit young, however, many people your age truly have their act together and you sound like you might be in that category.
How interested is he in you? And what can you bring to the relationship? Can the two of you carry on an intelligent conversation lasting more than two minutes? Do you have enough education (including self-study and personal reading) to be an intellectual partner to him?
If you had a relationship with him and it developed into a marriage would it work? Could you stay together? Would one or both of you get bored?
These may go a bit beyond your original question, but you should consider them carefully before you get into anything serious with him. He sounds like a good prospect.
Now, I'm 65. A woman 14 years younger than me would be 51. But that difference wouldn't be a problem, since both of us have a few thousand miles on the odometer. All other things being equal age difference wouldn't be that much of a factor.
When you're 22 it might be a little different, but I'd say test the water, find out if it will work and if it does, God bless both of you.
And, by the way, I think your considering his being a Christian is an awesome indicator of your maturity and levelheadedness. You could meet that criteria without being a Christian, but you are obviously beyond the "he's so cute" set in picking your guy.
2006-11-23 16:54:10 · answer #1 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend should definitely go for it. Age is not a problem here unless he makes it a problem. Society makes this such a big deal when it's not. So what he's almost 40. I would date him if he was 50 years old, just as long as we were compatible and a great match for each other. I can speak from experience with this. I'm 26 and I love older men always have because I have found the connection to be so great with them. My boyfriend is in his late thirties as well, and we are best friends. A person could miss out on their soulmate and a good life long partner if they let something like this hold them back. Tell your friend to go down there and have a great time. She's not going to care about his age if he's a great guy. Your friend sounds like a sweetie and tell him I said so too!!!! LOL!!!! There is nothing wrong with this situation and your a good friend for supporting him with this.
2016-05-22 21:39:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go for it, never know unless you give it a go, i dated a guy 13 yrs older than me ,sadly it turned out it was a rebound thing, but the age never bothered us, it may or may not work out depends on how well you two get along and all that not so much the age , but you may find yourself wanting to party and all that where as he's more likely to have been there done that, and you may resent him later for it, but thats no reason to not give it a go, everyones different and if it feels right, don't let a number hold you back.
2006-11-23 16:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, not really...there shldnt be any doubts in age gap, if you like each other then just go on wth your lives...why shld age be the line between you 2? if you think abt it, maybe he waited 36 years just to find the right person...but you shld make sure tht he is a really nice guy, i dont want you to have stress or problems in future, no matter wht you are 22, if you get broken hearted at young age, it will effect your future surely....
Be smart, be practical, you are the best decision maker for your own life, no matter wht you are in control of your life....you shld do wht is right.
2006-11-23 16:47:16 · answer #4 · answered by Jendralus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know of a relationship that is a 25 year age difference. Look as long as he doesn't have one foot in the grave or collecting social security, then it's cool.
2006-11-23 16:50:55 · answer #5 · answered by lupering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so in this situation. But I think with different ages it may be. If you guys have chemistry and like each other then go for it.
2006-11-23 16:42:25 · answer #6 · answered by i_eated_ur_cookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents had 15 years between them but it never bothered them and they got along well. Don't let age be a factor. If your happy that's all that matters.
2006-11-24 06:35:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to love age doesn't matter.Age is just a number.I've dated a guy way way older than me and had a great time.But it only happens if you are really in love.
2006-11-23 16:48:22 · answer #8 · answered by Wise woman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 44, my b/f of 10 yrs is 58....it's worked well for ug is all I can tell you!
Seems to me that if he meets all your other "requirements" that age shoudn't be a factor!
2006-11-23 16:47:18 · answer #9 · answered by Johnna L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the problem, your both adults and over 18 years old, and you two seem to get along.
2006-11-23 16:43:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋