It is selfish love if someone tells you they don't know what they'd do if anything ever happened to you because they're worried about how'd they feel rather than how you'd feel?Is it selfish love when you don't want someone to get hurt because you love them and it'd hurt you if they got hurt?
2006-11-23 16:17:45 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would classify it as "selfless love" when you give all that you have to the person you love.without expecting something in return....... and the other is "possessive love" which is the real selfish love you are refering to.....It really depends on how you see love in your perspective...
2006-11-23 16:25:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you specified that you were defining 'love' as agape love, then no, I do not believe the essence of love is selfish. Agape love is all about unconditional and self-sacrificial love. So, love in which you put someone else above yourself in terms of importance. This is a love that will not become jealous and will not fade if unreciprocated. However, agape love is, sadly, quite rare. Humans are insecure and typically selfish by nature, so unconditional and selfless love is uncommon.
2016-03-29 07:14:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. But if someone got hurt, how would that affect you? The only way you would feel bad about someone else's pain is if you had compassion for them. If you care about someone's well being enough for their pain to make you feel bad, that's definitely not selfish. But what if you feared that their injury would prevent them from loving you? In that case you're fearing the loss of love, not necessarily the loss of the person that loves you. You could call it selfishness, but it ultimately comes down to personal insecurity.
2006-11-23 16:57:44 · answer #3 · answered by Silver Spoon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. When a person loves someone, they don't want to see them get hurt, get sick or any bad thing happen to them.
I've been married to my wife for twenty years and I tell her, I don't know what I'd do if anything happened to her all the time. If anything did happen to her, I'd be lost.
That's not selfish, that is love.
2006-11-23 16:25:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i told my friend the same thing the other day. he got in trouble for drinking and driving. i was so mad at him. and i said " do you know what would happen to me, if i got a call from someone telling me you were hurt or dead? devistated wouldnt even begin to cover it." when i said that, i didnt have my own feelings in mind, rather i wanted him to see ( because i know he cares about me and doesnt want to hurt me) that the things he does and the choices he makes effects the people that love him, and we dont want anything to happen to him. maybe if he thinks about how it would hurt me if something happens to him before he does it, then he wont do it. you took what they said in the wrong way. they were truly looking out for you.
2006-11-23 16:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if that is the only emotion you have. Do you care about their feelings, too? Then no, it's not. Try to remember that it is okay to feel that way as long as you still take their feelings into consideration as well.
2006-11-23 16:21:44 · answer #6 · answered by lvminole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is an emotion, you bother care for each other, caring for someone will never be selfish, we need moreof this.
2006-11-23 16:27:24 · answer #7 · answered by shambo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
true love is never selfish
2006-11-23 16:20:11 · answer #8 · answered by prettygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are getting into the realm of neuroses yes...but our society is built on that kind of thing
2006-11-23 16:22:11 · answer #9 · answered by mgibson92804 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u got me confused
2006-11-23 16:20:40 · answer #10 · answered by iowadude92 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋