what do you do when the person you love with all your heart, and want to be with for the rest of your life?

Question

She tells me she loves me with all of her heart, but she doesn't want us to be together.

I asked her to marry me, and she said yes, so I went ahead, and bought the ring, and now she says she doesn't want us to be together, she keeps telling me she loves me, but yet she won't give us a fair chance together, and that is all I am asking for.

There is nobody else on this earth that I will love more than her or ever want to be with again, she is the only one I want to love and be with, but she just doesn't care about how I feel.

If I didn't love her so much, I would just ask my best friend to marry me, and she would say yes in a heartbeat, but all she is looking for is a babysitter, so she can go out and have her nights of fun.

Any helpful suggestions as to what to do in this situation, or with the ring will be greatly appreciated.

Thank you!

There is nobody else on this earth that I will love

ok, more details, she is divorced from her ex, and has 2 boys, and he wants nothing to do with them, etc, she says she needs to spend more time with the boys etc, but she doesn't have anytime for herself.

I offered to move closer to where she was, and babysit her sons, so she could go out with her friends etc, but she doesn't want that.

I really do love this woman with all my heart, and I lover her boys just as much, but yet, i feel like her saying that she loves me, she doesn't even mean it , I personally never say the words I love you to anyone unless I absolutely mean them with all my heart.

Answer 1

You really need to move on and find someone who loves you as much as you love her. I know it's heartbreaking, but you have to have your dignity. If she really loves you, she'll realize it when she doesn't have you. Please, for yourself, give an ultimatum and follow through with it. I wish you luck.

Answer 2

Maybe this girl has an attachment disorder or codependency issues - with either one of these it would make a person pull away soon after getting close because they fear rejection or sabotage. If you truly love her and believe you will never want anybody else the same way then maybe you should give her more time. Or you could possibly try to just be more casual for awhile and see if you can get her to open up and really talk to you. If she does indeed have an attachement disorder or codependency she quite possibly doesn't know that she does and probably wonders why she acts in this way just as much as you do. But, if you can get her to talk freely enough about her childhood, fears, etc. you (and her) may figure out what the root of the problem is - and then, hopefully, work through it and live happily ever after! Good luck and God bless.

Answer 3

"If I didn't love her so much, I'd just ask my best friend to marry me"
Talk like that would make any woman run in the opposite direction.
Just take the ring back. And if they won't accept, then pawn it. And if you really love her, then give it to her as a gift.
Don't dwell. And don't be clingy. There's nothing more annoying than that. I'm sure she's on a power trip. I'm sure you've been bugging the **** out of her. Just calm down. If she's not interested, she's not interested.
Keep in mind that she may just be telling you she loves you to keep you from killing yourself or something (which is always an option)
And words like "never" and "nobody" are kind of strong. Time heals all. Be strong. You'll make it.

Answer 4

It is evident that your girl friend does not have the same feelings for you. You have all of the reasons why you should gradually end this relationship. I say ""gradually"", because it will hurt too much if you suddenly leave her.

Marriage is something that you should not enter into lightly. The feelings
have to be mutual. Don't waste a lot of time hoping that your girl friend will suddenly have a change of heart and fall in love with you. I don't think that this will ever happen.

Don't rush into marriage, take your time in choosing a wife. You will know when you find the right person because that inner voice within you will tell you.

Answer 5

She is playing games. You need to find out what is going on. Ask her why she won't marry you if she loves you. It seems to me that you are making bad choices with women. Your best friend is using you as a babysitter and this other person is not being honest. Take the ring back to the store and return it. Neither of these women is right for you. If you can't take it back, put it away for when the right woman comes along. You haven't found her yet. Take your time and choose carefully.

Answer 6

Isn't there an old sayin that luv is not only about gazing into each others eyes but also two people looking in the same life direction i.e. chemistry and wanting to do similiar things in life. Do you think the reason she is holding ya at bay is because you might not have the same "life vision" as her?

But all in all I'm sur there are lots of pple who have experienced broadly similar things to what you are talking about here so...welcome to the I want something but can't get it club. Believe me I no how you feel..been there

Answer 7

I think it depends on how old she is. Maybe she is not ready for that step, so you should try to talk to her about it. And ask her why she doesn't want to marry you. About asking your friend, I don't think that is the right solution to your problem. In fact, that doesn't even have anything to do with you wanting to get married. If you love this girl, then why do you want to marry someone else? It sounds like what you want is a family, and it doesn't even matter with who.

Answer 8

Wow...you really really love her. In that case, ask her why. It is as simple as that. Ask her what the deal is. My guess is that she loves you but she is scared that the relationship won't turn out well. It is a common fear for most girls. Some girls are scared to get into a relationship because they are scared of getting hurt.

I'm not saying that is why she is acting that way. Ask her to find out.

Answer 9

Okay sweetie I know this will be hard to do but let her go and do what she wants. And I can almost bet you that she will come back within a couple of days or a couple of weeks. But please dont take her back cause it doesnt sound like she loves you it sounds like she is just playing games.

Answer 10

Wow!!!!!!You are seriously in love.Well never give up because once you loose the person you love you'll never find that person again.i loved some one like that and i gave it away.Like the saying goues,"Fight for what you love and she will surrender"Plus ahe's probably testing you.Show her you really love her.