Hes 9 years old. I find that punishment escilates his temper, but my wife babies him and my daughter confronts him.This seems to be breaking the family apart. He says "i hate you" and tortures the family to the point of my wife crying on daily basis.
Please Help me...its just that i don't want to take this to the point of doctors and such.
Thank you so much.
2006-11-23 15:56:02 · 10 answers · asked by Jo jo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
But than other days he acts totally diffrent, like nothing happened. He's so nice than he flips. Also brings things up from 4+ years ago to get mad over.
2006-11-23 15:59:33 · update #1
This is a tough call. I think all you can do is lay down the law, and follow through with any punishment you give. If he doesn't take the punishment, then threaten to send him away to live with someone else.
That's the only thing I can think of short of a visit to some sort of counsellor.
2006-11-23 16:01:20 · answer #1 · answered by Puggy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay, i was gonna say just talk to your wife and daughter and make sure everyone is on the exact same page as to how each family member is to deal with these outburst (daughter leaves the room and informs parent of behavior, mother warns punishment three times then FOLLOWS THROUGH, father does the same as mother) and that is still a good bit of advice, but after the additional info you posted, it sounds as though he may have a more serious disorder or underlying reason for this behavior. He may be experiencing abuse (physical, mental, emotional or sexual) from someone else and he is taking that out on everyone else in the home to try and establish a sense of control over some part of his life. Any way it goes, if the united front approach I listed earlier doesn't begin to show a difference in him within a month, then please seek the guidance of the LORD! He gave us the brains to use psychiatry so we'd best use them if He sees fit! You are IN MY PRAYERS!!!
2006-11-24 00:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by chrissiecat85 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son is the same way he is 5. he gets in trouble at school, hits me his brothers, and yells I hate you at me and my husband he was out of control so badly that I found a behavior specialist she put him on zyprexa and now the out bursts are maybe once every two weeks instead of seven or eight times a day. Its hard to deal with believe me I know.
2006-11-24 01:54:33 · answer #3 · answered by sandra m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back in the day a good old *** whooping did wonders on me, but nowadays we do the "time out" thing.Your wife has to stand up to him even if it hurts her to do so. I know you don't want to hear this but it sounds like he needs professional help, my brother was the same way until he started to see a counselor and taking medication. He's turned out more than fine now as an adult and no longer takes any meds.
2006-11-24 00:09:51 · answer #4 · answered by Galvatron 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can understand that you don't want to take this to a doctor, but it sounds like the situation is getting out of control. I really recommend that you take your son to the doctor right away and rule out any medical reasons for his behavior. He and your family need counseling to deal with this behavior. Please get help before the situation gets worse. I wish you and your family all the best.
2006-11-24 00:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by cotopaximary 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know that not everyone likes the idea of medication, but this sounds like one of my friend's kids and she took him to the doctor. It took a while to find correct medication and it was a long and stressful time but now he is behaving normally and the family gets along much better.
2006-11-24 00:01:48 · answer #6 · answered by kayle_rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your wife need to present a united front regarding discipline. As long as one parent is a "weak link" and lets him get by with bad behavior you are going to have problems.
2006-11-23 23:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by WonderWoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what? my sister used to do that, too. and she realllly psycholo9gically damaged me for years. you need to protect your daughter and get help for him.
btw, she used to hit my mother, too. and my mother has serious psychological problems.
but you know what? the way i think about is that you are the parent, it's your fault if all of the stuff mentioned above happens.
so be the parent and get help for him - whatever it takes.
you aren't doing him any favors either by not correcting his behaviour.
2006-11-24 00:27:16 · answer #8 · answered by smileygirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you tell him i will not take crap from you, your hitting is realy geting on my nerves ,you need 2 learn that what you do is wrong,then spank him like hes never been spanked before.
2006-11-24 02:25:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
GET MEDICAL HELP. DO NO TLET HIM CONTINUE OR SOMEONE MIGHT DIE!!!
2006-11-24 00:25:27 · answer #10 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋