If he says he doesn't ever see anything permanent with me, then he turns around and says, well maybe there could be something permanent with me... then he says he just wants to take it slow, what am I supposed to think? He's blowing me off right? He just wants me for sex? (We have slept together, but we don't do it every time we hang out with each other. )
2006-11-23 15:47:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It could be that he is unsure of himself. It sounds to me that he likes you quite a bit to even say that sometimes he sees possibilities ahead with you. He may have fears of his feelings and how he wants to choose for his life to be. Wanting to take it slow is always a wise way to build a good and strong relationship. Each person needs to learn how to remain who they are as they merge in love and life with another. It is too easy to get carried away and lose a hold of the individual self when jumping into a wild affair. When that happens it always causes disappointments and frustrations or even resentment. You don't want that to happen.
I think it is a mistake to simply decide what the other person is meaning to convey and act on that without discussing your confusion. You don't know what is going on in his mind. A mature person will be able to clarify communication and it is necessary for a good relationship. You can have loving conversations without tension when you are secure in yourself and not dependent on a particular outcome. You want what is true and real rather than fantasy and fears.
I believe that respect is of ultimate importance in all interactions.
2006-11-23 16:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by Tarpaulin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about calling his bluff on it? Tell him your tired of the cat and mouse games the "come here" "no go away" routine. I did that to my guy, we had dated for a while he moved away, he claimed he just wanted to be friends and keep in touch after the move but he'd say things to make me think there could be more but if I acted as though I was most interested in him he'd run the other way. But when I did say something to him he admitted it and we became better friends and eventually started dated again even though long distance, but now we've been married over 10 years. Good luck.
2006-11-23 23:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by jamesnjenifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strictly from a male perspective can be summed up in two words. Booty Call. But if being friends with benefits works for you both then just enjoy. If you are looking for a permanent relationship I think you should look elsewhere.
2006-11-23 23:51:32 · answer #3 · answered by Big Daddy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you are both looking for the same thing in the relationship so it is not going to work out. You are better off finding someone that wants the same thing as you.
2006-11-23 23:51:16 · answer #4 · answered by Darla H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even waste your time on this jerk, he's only in it for the sex. I went out with a guy that asked me if I was looking to get married someday and I told him yeah someday, when I meet mr right, well he says "then I'm not the one for you. cause I'm never remarrying again." Dump the jerk
2006-11-23 23:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by Laura G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is having a mini war with himself. He is trying to figure out if your guys' relationship is going to last long enough to become a possible marriage.
2006-11-23 23:50:15 · answer #6 · answered by lady_ellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He really isn't into you, your his safety place. He doesn't want to really be with you totally but he likes you like a friend. The question is do you really want to be used that way by him.
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2006-11-23 23:53:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow....your dating Bill Clinton? Watch out for the cigars!
2006-11-23 23:53:46 · answer #8 · answered by L L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cannot make up his mind and you are wasting your time!
2006-11-23 23:49:21 · answer #9 · answered by nurse41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is in it for he nookie girl... he's saying that there MIGHT be something in hopes you'll give him more nookie...
2006-11-23 23:50:40 · answer #10 · answered by rayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋