my boy friend is a businessman.he always said i dint support him and dont listen to him.. really confuse about d meaning of support and listen.
2006-11-23 15:32:18 · 12 answers · asked by smile 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how to be a good girl friend behind a businessman?
2006-11-23 15:34:59 · update #1
d listen meaning is just follow wht his opinion given?
2006-11-23 15:38:37 · update #2
actually i had help him on his business like find suppplier,documentation and so on.but he said this is not d meaning to support him. he said wht is support to him is listen to him. he said i dont know how to listen to a people &i put myself no 1 in my life.really sad, he was angry me rite now.he said he repeat this matter to me so many time but im still d same behaviour and it generate a negative feeling to him to my luv.
2006-11-23 16:02:01 · update #3
He means... Shut up, listen, & give it up when he needs it.
That wasen't ment to be rude, but thats what he really means.....
2006-11-23 15:35:09 · answer #1 · answered by Fitz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF A MAN WANTS YOU
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. They don't respect women or children. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
2006-11-23 23:36:27 · answer #2 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This isn't a bad thing, the problem here is that you two merely don't understand one another, IE.... when he says "he always said i dint support him and dont listen to him.." the real problem here is, He perceives that you don't care, when it appears to him that you don't listen to him, The same can be said of you, he looks at you ( not that you are doing any thing wrong, don't go there) and you don't share all of his excitement's or his commitments. Nor should you, It's his business. Right? My wife and I have been there before in our business. I needed to realize that when she couldn't catch my vision and excitement, It wasn't that she didn't care, Not at all, It was that she had a day full of her own issues and obstacles to over come from the day, and was overloaded with that. I was the one who needed to understand this, not her. But from his stand point every now and then if you can, clear your slate and talk with him about his business, ask questions, give answers.
Good luck
2006-11-23 23:46:59 · answer #3 · answered by atcranes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men need to know that what they are doing is for a reason. Don't think for a mintue that playing mind games with other business men is fun. If he has to sacrifice the effort involved in business affairs he probably wnats to know that there is ultimately a reason for his efforts.
It sounds to me like he needs validation maybe. I would say learn the counseling technique called "active listening". Basically you repeat everything back to them that they say but you reword it so as not to sound patrozing. That makes them feel like you actually heard what they said and how they felt about it. A lot of times they won't want a solution, just to know that someone feels their pain.
Anyways learn how to do that effectively and you may be as perfect as they come in his eyes.
2006-11-23 23:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by who 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tha t could be a tricky one, if he is a businessman what kind of buisiness, help him in avertising the business, is it some thing that you can wear to help it get noticed do you have friends that can help promote the product, things like that help support him, when he talks do you give helpful feedback, do some research so that he knows that you support him and are listening to what he is saying.
2006-11-23 23:41:07 · answer #5 · answered by Christs own 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can support guys like this for the next time you are in a relationship. I will give you examples from my life. Hopefully they will be relevant and easy to understand.
My girl supported my like for fishing by going with me just a couple of times and every once in a while she cooks one of my fish. She made me feel like an excellent provider
My girl supported me when I had troubles by just talking with me and listening, then kissing me on the lips and saying. Im still with you. I love you, Keep working towards your goals. She made me feel like a man again.
My girl supported me in my likes for the stock market when we made a special occasion to go out have coffee and she would listen to the things I learned and she made me feel connected.
2006-11-23 23:50:27 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He feels that you don't support any dessions that he makes. Plus you don't always listen to him. In the business world that is a very important factor that you listen to what he has to say. When you don't listen maybe he doesn't feel important!
2006-11-23 23:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say support means to help him out in his life endeavors and now when to back off all so.
2006-11-23 23:44:26 · answer #8 · answered by Samantha B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the crap women say. But men don't needs support, they need ego boosts. He justs sounds like a jerk to me. Than again I don't know the whole story. Also, take the time to spell.
2006-11-23 23:37:37 · answer #9 · answered by Hans 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if he is a businessman you can support for his busness work, llike handling daily income/daily sales/or may b something like tt stuffz which are done in bussness.
2006-11-23 23:35:48 · answer #10 · answered by Hugo Afkhar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋