Why cant my cat get along with our new cat!!!!!!!?

Question

My cat darla has not been able to accept our newest cat, gabby into the house!!. She is like constantly afraid/at war with her.

Gabby was adopted from a mean house hold, so when we first adopted her we kept her in my sisters room. and darla would always sleep in my room. but when darla saw gabby she didnt get along and eventually they kept fighting, and now darla can't go down the hallway which leads to my room. it is kinda gabby territory, but darla used to sellp on my bed all the time but now she never does. She used to not mind being picked up too much, but now if you even try she runs away and meows unhapily and stuff. If i try to bring her to my room, she always makes this kinda hissing noise but its her breathing heavily because shes nervous or something. she makes the same noise if she sees gabby too. I think she is always stressed out.. but i dont want her to be. i just want her to be able to sleep in my room again.

oh yeah i need to add stuff that i forgot to say:

We have had darla since she was a kitten, and she grew up with an old cat who died last year (and she was fine with) and this other midle age cat who we gave to my grandmother because she was not happy about the new kitten (she would mark her territory around the house with pee)

Darla is like 6, and we have had gabby for over a year!! she isint a kitten though, she is fully grown

its been over a year, and they cant get along yet!!

I mean they can both be sleeping in the living room, because gabby dosen't really care..

Also, darla has become like constantly alert. she always is looking out behind her, and if there is some noise she goes and investigates it acting really scared. she never used to do that before.

I always give darla attention. I always pet her on her cheeks like 3 times a day for like 10 minutes. And, if i just see her sitting down ill go over and pet her on her head and hug her while shes sleeping. So i give her ton of attention.

And my family never let gabby fight darla. we always picked up gabby and brought her away from darla.

And yes they both are spayed.

THey never have really gotten into a Real fight, sometimes both would chace eachother, and i think there is only one time when darla actually scratched gabby, gabby had one of darla's claw shells in her forhead lol It didnt draw blood or anything. but they never have gotten into a real fight ever.

Darla is a lot smaller than gabby, which might be why?

K remember this has been going on for over a year, not just months.

And they do eat from the same bowl of food! (we keep a full bowl of dry food out all the time)

Answer 1

Cats often dislike another cat being brought into THEIR territory. They will probably eventually work out a way of getting along reasonably well, but they may never really like each other, and each will be jealous of the attention you give the other. As long as they don't physically fight, you'll need to let them work it out for themselves. My daughter's two cats still avoid each other as much as they can, and they've shared a home for two years. They, too, divide the house and seldom venture into the other cat's areas. That's just the way cats cope.

Answer 2

Is the new cat fixed? They both need to be. Then if you are getting involved, trying to make them be buddies, forget it! Cats are very independent and they will do what they are going to do regardless. They are better off on their own. So, if any of this is not the problem they may not ever get along. They don't really have to. As long as you have enough room for the two in the home don't worry about it. Ignore them when they start. Do not get involved. Once the pecking order is established they should be ok. Maybe not buds. I have a female for at least 4 yrs. Her mentor who brought her home, my old male cat, had to be put down. My daughter had to leave her big male, younger, here and she doesn't really like him and they don't play or sleep near each other and walk around each other after months, but they still live in the house and outside. They aren't close but they tolerate each other. They are completely different. She is very great hunter, he's a double wide lazy sweet male. It's just funny how they work it out if you ignore them. good luck.

Answer 3

Darla is not the one with the problem.Gabby is.You said Darla cant go down the hallway,its like Gabbys territory.All the fighting that you have allowed between the cats in the last year has got Darla a nervous wreck.

Answer 4

She's probably either threatened or extremely frightened of Gabby. My cat, Ginger, had trouble accepting my cousin's kitten, when I adopted her, and would chase the kitten and meow all the time. the kitten was very submissive and gentle, and eventuelly they became buddies. They were just unused to each other. I guess it is kinda like a new baby brother or sister. It may never go away, and They may be rivals forever. I suggest lavishing Darla with attention, so she doesnt feel left out in the least, and feels comforted by the sight of you, not just thinking of you as the person who brought in another cat to love. I hope it works out. Cats are tricky, they have humanlike personalitiys.

Answer 5

They will eventually get along. What is going on right now is both of the cats are trying to establish themselves as the alpha leader. The alpha leader is usually the pet that was in the home first. It's a power struggle and it may last a couple months but they will not hurt each other and they will get over it. I had the same problem. It will work itself out. Plus your one cat may still be grieving over the loss of the cat that died.

Answer 6

Just give them some time cats are very Territorial and within time they will get used to each other.They may not become the best of friends but they will learn to get used to each other.Give Darla lots of attention so she doesn't feel replaced.

Answer 7

how long have you had Darla? it's probably like a kid getting a new baby brother/sister, they're jelous, they feel like they own the place,and now this new guy/girl is taking over and it's not fair.

it's probably just a jelousy factor, hopefully Darla will get over it after a while, best of luck to ya.

Answer 8

I adopted my kitty Gizmo from the spca and when i brought Fudge into the house Gizmo didn't appreciate it. They chased each other and hid under the furniture and tried to kill each other. I just let them go at it, they were both declawed its not like they could really hurt each other but it took almost 2 weeks of them going at it to realize neither of them were going anywhere. Now they love each other, they play, eat, and sleep together. It just takes time.

Answer 9

cat are like people. Some get along with others easily some with time and others just don't get along. But here's the deal, try to feed them at the same room and try to keep them at eacyh other's company, maybe they'll get used to each other.

Answer 10

Well maybe she is jealous or sad because you maybe adore the other cat more than her maybe you should give them some time my cat hated another cat but now she is having babies for him.