We had a serious relationship, at 10 wks pg, he literally vanished into thin air, he was agianst abortion, i found out he was doing cocaine, he also drives a semi,he is back in his homestate.( i only know where his parents live, he was staying there(going thru a divorce from his wife at the time we were together). He is in his 30's,and has a son with another woman too. he knew i was pg. Now i have our daughter should i find him, what do i do write a letter, go to his state and try to talk to him, or just raise her alone? I dont know..
2006-11-23 14:55:30 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Nail him for support, ya ya he gets visitation rights. But do you really think he would want them? I don't think so. And how does he drive a semi? I have a CDL and get tested regularly. Sorry but he's plum dumb.
2006-11-23 15:19:48 · answer #1 · answered by Les Gramps 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOOD LORD!!!
Let's see... he was married. You weren't married to him, but having sex w/ him. Then he ran away when you were PG. He's a coke head. He's got a "son with another woman" which I assume isn't the wife.
Why do you want this guy in your life? Do you think that he's ready to settle down and be Ward Cleaver or Dr. Huxtable for your family?
It seems to me that you got lucky, only having his baby! You and the kid could've lived with his coke use, and he could be out with yet another woman, having yet another baby w/ her!
I'm betting that this guy wouldn't have enough money to make child support payments, and that little bit of money would mean that he's in your life for 18 years, since he will get visitation rights!
WHAT ARE YOU THINKING! Of course you raise the kid! No, you don't contact him! Maybe when the kid is 16, but not now!! Gosh, why would you want that guy near you and YOUR DAUGHTER???
2006-11-23 15:07:45 · answer #2 · answered by geek49203 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i had my first baby i made the mistake to hunt down her father my friend talked me in to it suggesting it would only be the right thing to do but she is now 11 and although she knows who her father is it doesnt make things any better for her or me...with my second child the father left me too right when he found out i was pregnant we had a two year relationship i once again tried to stick around and have him participate but in the long run it became obvious that he only came around for money and things like that he never cared for our daughter for a second...so im sure you know my opinion is no do not hunt him down just raise your baby dont put you or her through it
2006-11-23 15:11:04 · answer #3 · answered by ELIZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋