How do I make my son have optimal happiness when he is in a blended family? I don’t get along with his dads side of the family at all and because of that, we have no contact unless it’s to do with my son. I just wonder what the best thing to do for this s? I support my son’s relationship with his family and let him have access and don’t say bad things but I feel like he may feel unsettled like he live in two worlds. He is five years old. Any one have this and how do you deal with it? His family lives in different state then us too.
i am not with his father, should have mentioned that. and i dont get along with him. all this is so hard.
2006-11-23 14:52:04 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You cannot "make" your son have optimal happiness. As long as he continues to have a relationship with his father's family and with your family and it is conveyed to him that this is the way it is (there are lots of blended families around) he should continue to be a happy child. Continue to reassure him that the reason mommy and daddy don't live together is not his fault and that he is well loved, everything should be fine.
2006-11-23 15:00:36 · answer #1 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shower your son with love and attention, do not introduce any other male figures into his life. Wait until he turns 18 to think about getting married or anything like that. Don't move in with anyone. The next --- years should be all about you and your son. Until he is ready to move out of the house. The most important thing you can do for him, is to never ever let him hear a negative word about his father come out of your mouth. No matter how big of a jerk he may be and no matter how evil he may have been to you. Let your son form his own opinions about his father. Trust me even his dad cannot hide how big of a jerk he is for that long. It will come out eventually, if he is indeed a negative person.
2006-11-23 15:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by Haveitlookedat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it is hard when familys break up ! but just be yourself and let him see what it is al about ! Don't make his dad look bad in front of him or the family ! Nobody is perfect . When he sees you treat everybody with respect then he will do to !
2006-11-23 14:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing that you can do is to make your son feel as comfortable as possible and when he is going to see his father/ father's side you make sound as though you are as excited for him as he is. it's not easy to do this but it's what we mum's have to do. i've done it for 7 years and it's not getting any easier. good luck. hope all turns out.
2006-11-23 15:57:03 · answer #4 · answered by mysticpsyk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
focus on loving your son, and ensure that everyone else does too. it is through love that your son will know everything will be ok.
2006-11-23 14:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by SAINT G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋