whats wrong with me? i am attractive , but i cant find someone
i always get "wrong" guys attracted to me
everyone keeps on saying "just wait" but i am tired of waiting, what if this time never comes ?
i am scared of being alone
all my friends are with someone and i feel like i am loosing my frineds cause i am theonly one single , that never had a bf
2006-11-23 14:52:02 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No need to feel bad just make a stagedy for meeting a guy. First make a list of qualities you like and don't like. Then qualities not so important. Next make up ground rules for these guys. If they break the rules dump him. That way you don't loose your perspctive over bad qualities.You also can go to a singles site like plentyoffish.com try that its free. You can check out profiles.
Can I get 10 points?
2006-11-23 15:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by thresher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 22. You're probably in college. You are smack in the middle of one of the most sexual societies on earth. Everyone is trying to define themselves, and often they do so by defining themselves by the people they date, which is not really the best thing to do.
Don't worry about not having a bf just because your friends do. Boyfriends are not like trends, where you're a loser if you don't have a *INSERT TREND HERE* like everyone else.
But, if you really are lonely, DON"T WORRY. You're only 22. You're not going to grow too old to attract a boyfriend anytime soon. If the only guys who are attracted to you are the wrong types, then don't date them. You're not in a rush- young people look for each other well into their 30's, and after that, there are old people looking for a perfect mate all the way into their 90's. And I'm sure it won't take you that long. You're at a stage in your life that is very unlikely to stay the same for long.
But, as for actually attracting the kind of guy you want, there are some steps you can take. Mainly, look at yourself (you might want a trusted friend to help) and identify the aspects of yourself that "the wrong type" is attracted to, and the aspects of yourself that the kind of guy you want would be attracted to. If you disfavor some aspects that "the wrong type" likes, try to avoid being that way. Try to show off your qualities that you think would attract the right type, and don't waste time with guys who reject you for this.
Remember, you're not in a race. Just because you know people who got pregnant in middle school doesn't mean you're an old maid now. You have PLENTY of time on your hands- so toss that fear in the trash and get a positive attitude about finding the right guy.
2006-11-23 23:24:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you "scared" of being alone? Women should not allow their identities to be consumed with the need to have a man. Go make something of yourself. Get educated, get a good job, be successful in your field. Know what will happen if you do that? All of a sudden, you'll realize that you're getting noticed! A successful, confident, independent woman is MUCH sexier than a needy, clingy, whiny one... My OWN ego (which, I admit, is considerable...lol) would never permit me to be with a woman who was with me only because she thought it was better than being alone! I want the kind of woman who doesn't NEED to be with anyone, but chooses to be with me anyway.
I already have that woman... my wife! She's an engineer with a master's degree in mechanical engineering. Stubborn, independent, sometimes downright mean, but I wouldn't trade her for anything!
And by the way... I didn't get married until I was 34. Until people reach their 30's, I don't think they've lived long enough to be INTERESTING enough to spend the rest of my life with!
2006-11-23 22:58:37 · answer #3 · answered by Stretchy McSlapNuts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with YOU!! It is men that have the problem, lol...I seem to get all the wrong guys also, not the one I want.....since u say you never had a B/f, its just that you might be the the who wont just "go with" anyone, you want someone special. And I will tell you one thing, when you do find him, and he is out there, believe me cause there is someone for everyone, he will LOVE the fact that you waited just for HIM. dont worry.....I know what how it feels to be lonely, and it totally sucks, u can email me anytime to talk if u want.
2006-11-23 22:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by romanov1918 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar problem. I thought i wanted a boyfriend and was unhappy being single. But then i realized it was me doing it..i was turning down oppurtunites ( I could always find something wrong with the guy) because I was actually scared of letting anyone close to me. Youve got to look at yourself. Are you really open to being in a relationship?
2006-11-23 22:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by Kass 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, the right guy just hasn't come into your life yet. You are still young, there's still alot of things you can concentrate on. And relationship isn't a trend, you don't date because everyone has a partner.
Good Luck. Enjoy your life!
2006-11-23 22:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by Tru 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is raise your standards.Look for love in other places,not in a bar. And don't settle for anything less.You have plenty of time to find someone.But stop worrying about what someone else has,and go get yours.
2006-11-23 22:56:16 · answer #7 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking your friends to hook you up with one of thier boyfriends friends and double date or go somewhere socail with them and get thier input on guys you meet if you think or really value your friends opinions put them to the test it couldn't hurt!!Be yourself and hang in thier men are like bubbles they will come a popping in and out of your life
2006-11-23 22:57:32 · answer #8 · answered by snaggles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a lesbian? ;-)
Are you a cruel person? Dishonest? Unfaithful? A "princess"? Do you make an effort, or do you expect the guy to do everything?
Maybe you're just too picky? After all, what is the "wrong" kind of guy to you?
2006-11-23 22:55:24 · answer #9 · answered by A_Patriot 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
would u rather b with wrong guys right now or wait for the rigth gu to come along? hes out there somewhere
2006-11-23 22:54:02 · answer #10 · answered by Lucky#11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋