Well, first off, I am a 23 yr old caucasian American girl who was born into Christianity. My whole entire life I have never felt a connection to Christianity and I have never been able to accept Jesus as my God. For the past 5 years now I have been researching Islam, reading the Qur'an and familiarizing myself with the Muslim religion. I feel that Islam is the religion for me, 100%. I, with all my heart, want to convert to Islam. However, I am afraid that I will not be accepted by Allah because of all the herendous sins I have commited in my considerably short life. Sins including drug use, being promiscuous, having a child out of wedlock, stealing and lying. I regret my sins so much that it makes me physically and mentally ill. I wish so much that I could be forgiven for my sins and live a pure life. So I guess what my questions are is, can I be a Muslim considering the horrible sins I have committed? Would a Muslim man be allowed to marry me? I am worthy of Islam? Please help me...
2006-11-23 14:45:04 · 32 answers · asked by karaizacutie 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
To the answerer who said Muslim men are "honestly allowed to beat their women", well, as I mentioned I have been researching Islam for the past 5 years and I know for a fact that your statement is false. Read the Qur'an and you will see for yourself. I'm not stepping into Islam blindly. And I know what will be required of me as a Muslim woman (hijab being one of those requirements)and I am accepting of this and I agree with this requirement also. Many Christians and other non-Muslims find Islam to be degrading to women. Why? Because Allah would like women to be viewed as as precious and honorable and dignified?That doesn't sound so bad to me....
2006-11-23 15:33:08 · update #1
I am going to be very blunt with you. Like it or not, your post made the hair on my arm stand on ends!
This is Hypocrisy at it is best. You were born into a Christian family, lived you whole life as one, and yet you have lived your life as you pleased without any consideration to what you might do, and what might happen to you, and then you won't to convert to Islam, implying that your free life was caused by you being Christian not by what you have done. Don't blame Christianity for your past life, and now you are looking for a way out!
If you truely regret your sinns, then you should confuse your sins to God and never do them again. Not leave God, not abandon God, and pretend you are looking for the right path! you seem had never been on the right path. And you are worried if a Muslim man will marry you! you better believe it, many will be happy to marry a convert to their faith. After all, you have forsaken your religion for theirs.
Can you be a Muslim? Yes you can. and don't forget that Muslims also sin, they are not far from sinning nor are they Angels, if that what you think.
A Muslim man is allowed to marry you. Don't put yourself down so much. You sinned, so what, everyone sinned one time or another, some sinn more than other, but we all sin, inculding the Muslims, and those whom you think are worth more than you. You sound as if you are begging for a Muslim man to marry you. Look for a Good man, not just a muslim man.
Now I am going to get it for this. Islam is not worthy of you. Help you!! God help those who help themselves. If you ever been a christian then this blessing for you. If you think Islam is 100% for you, then you should learn a little more of what you may go into.
IN the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy SPirit may you have peace in your heart, soul and spirit.
Don't forsaken your Lord who put his life on the line for you, and never forget his teaching. Amen.
ADD:
I regret posting this message to you, not because I don't believe in what I say, but because you will not hear my words. I wish you well. Muslims claim to say they believe in Jesus Christ, and at the same time, they don't give him the proper respect. I know the muslims so well. If you are really a christian! Islam is not for you, believe me. But it is up to you. Think hard, long and wise. Finding a man to marry you, not so hard to do. I say this to you with all respect.
I like to ask you a question, if I may!
They tell you by converting to Islam that all your past sins will be forgiven?! Don't believe it. the question. How do he Muslims get their past sins forgiven!! do they convert to Christianity?
In the time of the judgment day, Jesus Christ will be the one who will be judging you. Christians and Muslims believe he will return for the judgment day, not Muhammad, But Jesus Christ. Ever wonder why it is Jesus and not Muhammad! think about it, and you will know why. Don't forget that.
THINK HARD, LONG and be WISE. and Good luck to you.
WATCH THESE, AND IF YOU STILL THINK ISLAM IS GOOD FOR WOMEN, THEN GOOD LUCK TO YOU. AND MAY THE LORD BE WITH YOU AND PROTECT YOU.
You study it for five yrs! Beating the women or wife!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wp3Eam5FX58&mode=related&search=
Wife Beating in Islam - The Rules
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0nUI3TUdFCk&mode=related&search=
Debate on Wife Beating as instructed in Quran
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iWGA8i6scYY&mode=related&search=
Wife Beating in Islam - Only a rod will help!
If you want to convert and marry a muslim man, find a modern man, wo he will not look into his Quran and if he decided to beat you, his book will tell him it is fine, because he is the man, and his job is to teach you how to behave!
P.S. I truely wish I didn't post this message, but I started, and I must finish what I start, at least this post. Good Luck to you.
May the Lord Keep you safe and Happy
Another ADD:
I know I am wasting my time, but I only wanted to help. In some ways I was in your place, but I would never convert to Islam, respectfully to you, it is just me. Those who gave me a thumb down. Thank you for not taking the time and read my post, and so quickly judge and give me the thumb down. not surprise.
Good Luck to you again.
2006-11-23 15:09:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 13⤋
No matter what sins you have committed or how wild your past was. You can still become a Muslim.. Islam erases all sins committed prior to becoming a Muslim. Prophet (may the peace and blessings and mercy of Allaah be upon him) said, “Islam annuls what came before it.” (narrated by Muslim in his Sahih, no. 121).As soon as you become a Muslim all your previous sins are forgiven and you start a blank state. Or a complete clean record.
Muslim (121) narrated that ‘Amr ibn al-‘Aas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: When Allaah put Islam in my heart, I came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said: “Give me your right hand so that I may swear allegiance to you.” He held out his hand and I withdrew my hand. He said, “What is the matter, O ‘Amr?” I said, “I want to stipulate a condition.” He said, “What do you want to stipulate?” I said, “That I will be forgiven.” He said, “Do you not know that Islam destroys that which came before it?”
Best of luck and God bless.......
2006-11-26 14:48:15 · answer #2 · answered by Samantha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family is Chrisitian, not you, and from what you said, you don't know much about Christianity. You lived your life as you please, sin, having a child out of wedlock, drugs, promiscuous etc. Don't blame that way of life on Christianity, that was your doing. Christianity is agianst sin, drugs, out of wedlock kids. If you know anything about it, you would have also known that when a person ask for forgiveness, they receive it.
You either have been Muslim all your life, or already converted before the your studying of the Quran. Five years and you don't know what the man has rights over the women! it seems the five years were not enough. A man can beat his wife, as long as he doesn't break skin, make her bleed or break her bones! that is in Islam. A Muslim man is suppose to teach her how to behave. You didn't know that!
If you are afraid if you not going to be accepted, don't worry, you are the treasure that many of them seek. To them you are what they want, to convert the whole world to Islam, if you didn't know that, then you don't know much about Islam either.
Are you looking for the easy way out, or are you looking for a Muslim husband. It seems you have already decided. In the eye of Islam, you are already muslim, if what you say is true. You are young, don't worry you will have plenty of men wanting to marry you. As for your sinns, only God is the one who will forgive you sinns, and if you mean it, and never do them again, as you know, he will know, and forgive you. You are not alone, we all sinned one time or another, only in our different ways.
If you know the Quran, then you must have read the story where Muhammad was screaming in pain, and the Angel Gabrielle came to him and was praying for Muhammad so as God will forgive his sins. Yes, Muhammad sinned and was praying to God to forgive his sins. Read yourself if you don't believe.
Last and not least, Good luck to you, and may God forgive your sins, if that is what you want. One more to your sins is you lied. You said, today I am a Muslims. You have already converted why is this question asking for help when you have already done it?!
2006-11-24 04:37:48 · answer #3 · answered by Genevieve 4 · 6⤊ 2⤋
I feel like I'm in another world, life and going through what the writer went through .. it's hard to explain but to be honest it feel great =)... it's better Mainly I read Romance, Non - fiction but I would like to try other genres
2016-05-22 21:31:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the first things you will be taught upon accepting Islam is that all your past deeds, good or bad, are discounted. Anyone coming back to Islam is welcomed as an equal with all rights and worth.
Forget about your past sins and not waste energy regretting. It is not a question of being forgiven your past sins, they don't count. Go ahead and concentrate on henceforth living as pure a life as you can. Your are entitled to be married by the best of Muslim men. And you are worthy of Islam.
2006-11-24 02:30:45 · answer #5 · answered by WEBBADGER 3 · 3⤊ 6⤋
I'm going to put my answer on here, even though I am not Muslim. I think that you deserve praise for first of all, having the courage to convert to a religon that must be so foreign to your childhood religon; that takes bravery and courage. Second of all, the Muslim religon is a peaceful religon, and who are any of us outside of the Muslim religon to dictate to you how you will worship? Blood has been spilled on all sides, and you deserve accolades for moving on, and still choosing to keep your faith, which is more than many can say. You are keeping peace in your heart. I hope that one day you can see that sincerity in pennance, and determination to live a pure life, in any heart, makes you worthy.
I say again, I am not Muslim, but your post has touched my heart. It is such a relief to see that there is someone like you out there, who has the courage and the tenacity to do as their heart dictates.
Do not lose your faith. And do not listen to outsiders that might take a different stand. If the Muslim religon is what's right for you, and if the Muslin G*d (I don't want to offend anyone, so that's how I'm phrasing it, and deepest apologies if I do offend anyone) is the G*d you want to worship, then by all means, ignore any dissenters. Their agenda is not what beats in your heart.
I apologize for answering, though not Mulslim. I have only a layman's knowledge of the Muslim religion, so I won't be able to answer most of the questions you posed. I just wanted you to know that there are people out here that, even though we may not be Muslim, we stand by your decision, and support you, and we would try to stem the critisism that may come down on you, if we could. Suffice it to say, you are an inspiration.
I wish you the very best of luck and life.
2006-11-23 15:42:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 6⤋
I am also a 23 year old caucasion American girl who was born into christianity. I am now a 23 year old muslim woman. I started studying Islam when I was about 14. 4 years ago I converted. I did horrendous things as well, including promiscuity. I almost had a child out of wedlock, but I lost it when I was 4 months and had to get a D and C done. WHen you become a muslim, it's like you start life fresh. You are given a clean slate. Everything you did before is ignored, because you were not a muslim then. It's in the Quran, too, I think. Now you know you did those things wrong, and you are sorry about them. God won't hold them against you. A muslim man is allowed to marry you, but make sure he knows Islam and doesn't follow his screwed up culture.
Sister, I don't know if this helps, but I hope so. By becoming a muslim woman, you gain honor and respect. You will be tested very hardly by Allah/God. But it's becuase God loves you. God tests those He/She loves the most. And converts are no exception. You just need to hold on to your faith and know that it's better for you in the future. Good luck sister. Let me know your decision.
2006-11-23 14:50:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 14⤊ 9⤋
The questions have been answered by other Muslim brothers and sisters (real ones).
All I have to say is God Bless you. Good luck with your trip, It'll be kind of hard in the beginning, but your true faith will help you all the way through.
God bless you again, and if you want, I'll always be more than happy to help. (what else can be more precious then Islam).
Peace sister.
2006-11-23 17:15:02 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 4⤊ 6⤋
once you are a Muslim all the sins of your past are forgiven. You are judged from that day on.
Yes you can still find the man of your dreams.
I can understnad your fears. I was divorced with two kids. Yet I met and married the most wonderful man in the world. I have many Muslim friends that do not care about my past only my future.
I will be honest though there will be people just as in any part of society that will judge you on your past. My in-laws still do not except me, but I am ok with that. Inshallah (God willing) you will not have this problem.
Assalaamu alaikum (peace be upon you)
2006-11-23 15:20:09 · answer #9 · answered by Layla 6 · 9⤊ 7⤋
All praises be to Allah, who showed us the straight path.
Once you are converted to Islam your innocent like a new born baby. All your past sins will be forgiven by Allah. He's most mercifully. More and more people are researching, studying about Islam and finding the truth. Muslim man will gladly marry a Muslimah. Welcome to Islam in advance.!
May Allah strengthen your faith and make your life peaceful.
http://www.allaahuakbar.net/misconceptions/what_is_islam.htm#Q1
2006-11-23 15:54:20 · answer #10 · answered by Muslim 4 · 7⤊ 7⤋
May God's blessings be upon you. I am a muslim and was very happy upon your interest in Islam. Yes, before you make any decisions it is important that you be 100% sure. All your previous sins are forgiven and you are as pure as a new born child once you accept islam... and you are rewarded as much as 9 muslims. According to Islam everyone is born a muslim, but since you have been brought up in a christian home, you had unknowingly converted to Christianity. Now as you show interest in Islam, you would be 'reverting' back to islam.
Now answer to your questions, yes you can be a very good muslim, any good educated muslim man will marry you, and your interest in Islam makes you very worthy, and you will be if you follow it properly. Your child will be blessed to grow in Islamic environment.
Dear Sister, it is indeed a very big step... I recommend you to see debates and speeches on dvd of two of my personal favourite people. Dr. Zakir Naik and Late Dr. Ahmed Deedat. Any confusion, even 1% will be clarified God-Willingly.
Good Luck... May God show His guidance and make the path easy for you. Ameen.
2006-11-23 15:14:10 · answer #11 · answered by Sunnydays_r_here_again 3 · 6⤊ 9⤋