any suggestions for single parenting .its getting on my nerves?

Question

controlling too much t.v watching.screaming ,fighting the list is never ending.pls.help

Answer 1

First of all, as a Long Term Single Parent, let me give you a few hints:

1. Put the TV on a timer -- and Keep the control with you. I used the Parental Controls built into my unit, and that was a way I LIMITED the amount of time that they had in front of the boob tube (and locked the Video Games in a Locking Cabinet -- I had the only key -- and once a week -- for an hour, they could choose which game to play -- but it had to be that they played together quietly -- after that .. the games went back into the cabinet).

Each afternoon/evening is scheduled -- from the time they come home after school to bedtime. I also made it clear that they would participate in certain activities -- like Scouting, an After School Program, and an Athletics Event/Program each season.

When they fought -- it was time out. NOTHING -- no TV, no radio, no games, just do your homework or read a book -- and you had to be within sight of me while I was fixing the meal.

Even small children can help with the chores -- list them out on a weekly schedule -- put the child's name next to a chore (and be sure to rotate them through all chores) and tell them you will check when they say they are finished -- and DO check -- and make them re-do if it is not the way that you know they can do it.

Homework Time -- same time every day. At least an hour to make sure that their homework is done -- and they would have to check off their assignments that were listed in their daily planners.

IF fighting while out in public -- I would tell them and start walking to the Car right away. We would NOT stay out and enjoy an activity or event IF they could NOT behave. (and my children were disabled!)

Make sure that you are WELL organized in the home. Even the small children can put away their own clothes, or help you by learning how to fold laundry.

Same with taking out the trash. It is an easy job, and they can do it from an early age.

Answer 2

I have been a single parent for 13 years. I have made the choice many times to stay a single parent, might seem crazy to some but I haven't found a man who is devoted and able to commit to parenting. The #1 rule...you are no longer #1. It sucks! 100% sometimes, then sometimes....it rocks! My boys are 3months, 8 and 12 going on 25. Breathe, sleep when you can, GET OUT WITHOUT them whenever you can! If you have family and friends, learn the true meaning of the old phrase "It takes a community to raise a child." My kids have never had a dad, they have never missed it either! Read anything you can on parenting, meet other parents (even married ones help). Mostly, enjoy it, it will be over before you know it. Looking at my yooungest and my oldest, it only seems like days have passed and my oldest is starting noticing girls, doesn't want me around...enjoy it. You are mom, dad, judge and jury, a god and a demon, but you are mom, mommy, mama, whatever first!

Answer 3

Been there ... done that...
If it's a option for you try a single parent group....some churches have them...other social centers have a mothers or father club gathering for singles parents ...they try to exchange tips a methods of parenting that may seem simple ... other ideas seem complicated...but it will get you a WAR Chest of ideas to pull from when you do battle with the little devils.

Lets me just say .... Duct Tape !

Yup thats all I'll say ....

Some times you only have to make a "real impression once" and children will hear your loud and clear!

Good Luck ...you may not win, but don't ya dare loose ...just try to survive it !

Answer 4

Why do you want single parenting. Life is the finest gift of love that has been given to you by mother nature. It is surprising that you want not to experience it. Why single parenting. Why not marriage. Do you think single parenting will solve all the problems of the world.
The challenge is to face the world and not shirking away from the responsibilities. Problem solving and responsibility sharing is what you learn from marriage.
Give life a chance. Enjoy life. Enjoy love .Becoming a mother after marriage will make you a complete man or woman.Just think HOW EXCITING is the power of creating a child and grooming him/her to become a nice citizen of the world. Only God can do this. Play GOD and enjoy life and experience the magic of mother nature.

Answer 5

1.Divide the day in intervals of 2 hours . Leaving school hours of course. Each interval includes one hobby work, one subject major and one minor' revision/ homework.
2.After school , changing clothes, washing, food and sleep of at least of one and half hour.
3.Next is going out to play outdoor for at least one hour, maximum one and half hour.
4.After snacks again one hobby like music,dance, painting with revision. So NO TELEVISION TIME !
5.By 8.30 pm serve dinner with watching news and if any children's serial comes then allow.
6.Go to bed by 10 pm POSITIVELY to get up early by 5.30 am, that will again include one major and minor subjects revision for the child.
We need to be a little strict about timing so that our energy limits are there left for meditation.

Answer 6

It is hard for a single parent to adequately cope with the up-bringing of children ; it is even hard for nuclear family structured families[married parent] to achieve this : this is because individual couples have to make their own decisions, and this is even harder for single parents. Maybe you can get assistance from other relatives , such as your mother or aunts , or even siblings to help.

Answer 7

nothing is going to change if u get nervious,just be consious, sencible,and better have an alternative like if its too much tv,replace it with some activiety like art ,playing something like that

this notonly improves u r relation butalos can help u in controlling children

Answer 8

DON'T FORGET TO SPARE FEW TIMES FOR YOUR SELF .LEARN TO MANAGE YOUR TIME AND INVOLVED YOUR KIDS TOO.SET A SCHEDULE FOR THEM WHEN TO AND HOW LONG THEY CAN WATCH T.V. ANY FIGHTING BETWEEN THEM SET RULES LIKE NO T.V. FOR TODAY FOR EVERYBODY TO SHOW FAIRNESS.IF IT DIDN'T WORK OUT LOOK FOR OTHER SOLUTION LIKE WHO'S GO IN TO HELP YOU TIDY UP THE KITCHEN AFTER DINNER.THINGS LIKE THESE ARE OFTEN HAVE A NICE OUT COME.

Answer 9

don't control too much.
the more u use the remote for control, the more is the damage.
just give time for one channel to another.
similarly just don't go on controlling.
counselling in a different atmosphere. take him out , divert his attention.

Answer 10

Hi, Bina.. Don't allow anything undesired to get on your nerves!