another dumbass relationship question needing to be asked?

Question

At my college, there is this girl that i really like and we hang out together and talk all the time. I'm usually in her room alone giving her a masage for 2 hours while watching a movie and honestly i dont know what to do about her. I told her that I liked her and she said that she didnt have the same feelings for me. The kicker is that usually when i go out with my roommates to say a hockey game, she texts or calls me telling me along the lines of "i wish u stayed instead of leaving." She has a really open and attractive personality which attracts a lot of guys but she says she doesnt like them either (most of her friends are guys, just to point that out). So what praytell should I do over this predicament I have?

Answer 1

First of all, most likely, she lied. She sounds like a lot of other girls I know... Probably likes you and just doesn't want to admit it. This is a common practice among girls who have "open" personalities becuase they put themselves out there alot.

What should you do about it? Find out if she sends those kind of texts to every guy she knows. If she does, then sorry honey, she's a tease...

BUT, if she doesn't send mesages like that to everyone, then she does like you (otherwise, she wouldn't even be thinking about you while you're not around, trust me...), and then it's up to you what to do about it. If you want to date her, you'll need to stop giving her those nice, two-hour massages... make her miss you!!! Make her earn your love!!! Tell her you've got to move on and find a girl... you can't be giving HER massages while you're dating someone (this will make her think you are going to give up on her, and find someone else, and that's good, hehehe...). Tell her that. She'll get her priorities straight and she'll either fess up about liking you, or leave you alone (which might make you sad, but it would be in your best interest either way).

So, good luck with that.

hmmm, two hours...

-thinks to self, "how come no one gives me two-hour massages?!"-

Answer 2

She has alot gain from you and your feelings and doesnt appear to have a problem using those gains. It may be best to maintain a friendship, companionship, without massages, if you feel you can do that. If your feelings are too strong for her, you may need to break away totally and start dating. I'm sorry she is doing that. She almost sounds lonely. But your feelings cannot be the price to pay.

Answer 3

you should tell her that you want to have a real down to earth talk with her if you feel that your feelings are more serious for her than they might be for you .if you dont feel that you can continue like the way things are with her than you need to do whats best for you .i know it puts you in a hard situation kind of keeps you from being free sort of speak .this is just my opinion but from a christians point of view i would be carefull not to let things go to far anyways with each other.friendship is so very important and right now both of you need to focus on your degrees getting seriously involved right now especially with all the uncertainty you have now could have serious effects for both of you ,however sometimes women that have been hurt in the past have a hard time opening up to someone that they have feelings for .she might be waiting for the right time thinking in her mind that shes going to have to do something soon because she knows she has deeper feeling for you than she says or she might just be using you for company waiting for the right one to come along women are just to complicated to figure outthe best thing to do is put God first in your life and he will work everything out you can go to him in prayer and he will answer you life is not complicated if you let God be your guide hes mindfull of you and the girl

Answer 4

most guys fall for girls like her because she is overally friendly and nice. she probably has a awesome personality that attracts all the guys and i hate to point this out, but unless you stand out from the rest of them, you're just another one of those guys that like her. quite honestly i think it's wrong to play you like that since she knows you like her. it gives you false hope. my advice is to cherish the friendship you have with her and try not to go beyond that.

Answer 5

damn ure a nice guy!!- u got ureself a girl that likes to tease!!!
the game she plays is teasing, she likes u but she likes other male attraction too.
she could also be a girl that might pay attention to u as soon as u spend time with other chicks.

u could try that out well anyway goodluck!!!!

Answer 6

STOP analyzing what she text to you and stuff. Just remember that she did say that she didn't have feelings for you. Sounds like one of those girls like we all knew in HS and college that just thrives on attention. Find someone that DOES like U.

Answer 7

Bob,

Find another Co-Ed to massage ...she may get protective and tip her hand that she really does care .... or perhaps she really likes the back rubs and keeps dropping you a crumb trail ... and your still following it.

Don't hold your breath ...move on ...see if she follows.

Good Luck

Answer 8

i think it would be better if you ask her what the score really is rather than to keep you hangin' in the air..tell her how you feel about her & if she says that she doesn't like you again, then move on & stop giving her the attention that she doesn't really deserve..

Answer 9

Sorry mate, sounds like a bit of a prick teaser.

Answer 10

Oh dear, she is using you. Don't fall into this. I am saying this as a girl.