I found evidence in his cell phone that he has been talking to another female and they have gone out. Was I wrong for doing that and should I confront him?
2006-11-23 14:12:24 · 25 answers · asked by Lady D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It was wrong to snoop, but this isn't a court so the evidence still holds. If he's lying to you, get out of there. He obviously doesn't respect you at all. If he tells the truth, then see if you can make it work. I would be very cautious, and don't give him an oppurtunity to make you be the bad guy: Don't tell him that you snooped around. That will just give him ammo, and make the situation worse.
Confront him not about the phone, if he lies, just leave. You don't owe him an explanation if you're not worth the truth to him.
2006-11-23 14:18:11 · answer #1 · answered by Aegor R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the only woman in his life?
No other women, Mother, Sister, co-worker...
You don't know any guys other than him I take it.
A name is only a name girl or guy. If you want to know what the name is doing in his phone, ASK HIM. If you don't trust him, decide now and save yourselves the grief later.
Suspicions are just that, resolve the issue and make a decision from there. Has he been doing anything that would, make you suspect him of cheating. Obviously there must have been something, put together a case and put it to him. If there's nothing to it the situation will be resolved and your both better off, if you get past the distrust issues.
Hope for the best.
2006-11-23 14:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by Old guy 124 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you were wrong to look at his cell phone. You had reason to confront him before, since you were suspicious. Unfortunately you looked at his cell phone and you have some information now that will drive you crazy until you ask him.
I advise you to tell him how stupid you were to do what you did and to tell him what you found. You better expect that you may not have a relationship with him afterward, but it would be as much your fault as his, since invasion of the few privacies we have these days is very serious.
If he was wrong, he was wrong. So were you. face it and get it over with.
2006-11-23 14:19:28 · answer #3 · answered by nw_big_skies 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's probably time to call it quits. He's obviously doing stuff behind your back. And he isn't going to quit (and i know from seeing this with my best friend...who married the a**hole anyway even after she caught him over and over. They've been married a 1.5 years now and she just called the other day with the same sh*t). You obviously don't trust him or you wouldn't be looking in his phone. Don't worry if what you did was right or wrong. You found what you were looking for. Act on it.
2006-11-23 14:18:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that you should have asked him about it before you looked in his cell phone but well that's already done so at least now you know for sure.
You definitely should confront him, tell him you know he has been seeing someone else. I'd never deal with something like that from a guy, you really should talk to him about it. It's good to be honest and tell him you saw it in his cellphone, even though it's hard. Who knows... maybe you wouldn't really have to tell him that you looked in his phone but you definitely should. be honest and don't deal with that... it's so wrong to cheat on someone...
2006-11-23 14:17:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have confronted him with your suspicions first but what's done is done. It doesn't matter now if it was right or wrong. You did it. End of story. But yes, confront him about this female. If he asks how you know about her, don't answer the question. Turn it back on him. Ask him who she is again.
2006-11-23 14:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by Deana S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL..In a recent question from a girl having a boyfriend that was making her choice between him and her guy friends, something like 95% of the girls said that having guy friends was ok and acceptable and her boy friend was a jerk for making her choice. Looks like the shoe is on t he other foot now. So yes, it's acceptable for a guy to have friends that are girls and for him to go out with them also. If it's good for the goose, it's good for the gander...lol
2006-11-23 14:19:04 · answer #7 · answered by bigbadwolf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing once---only it was his email account. And I confronted him. We are still together (4 years later), but I have punished myself way more than he could do to me. By confronting him, we worked on it, and he knew he had to win back my trust....and he has. I do say---confront him, I hate to be made a fool of.
2006-11-23 14:15:44 · answer #8 · answered by donnabellekc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you realy need the stress.
If youre going to have an honest relationship tell him straight about what youre having a problem about if he doesnt care, he should know out of self respect, dignity and love you cant hang on
2006-11-24 01:03:57 · answer #9 · answered by goldeni009 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance has on no account expressed a choose to look with the aid of my laptop or cellular telephone, yet while he had to, he ought to. We share each little thing because it extremely is, so there's no longer something i'm hiding. in case you're a truthful individual, why no longer enable your boyfriend/lady pal to look with the aid of your inner maximum issues? people who've no longer something to disguise, disguise no longer something.
2016-11-26 19:25:45 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋