When I was out with my bf on our first date I kissed him on the cheek. He pulled away from me when I did it. Now that we dated a few times I tried it again. He still pulled away and told me things were going too fast. A kiss on the cheek is not too fast at all in my opinion. We have been dating 3 weeks now and I dont want to go at a snails pace. But he did put his arm around me a few times but thats about all he feels commfy doing. I think the reason he is like this might have something to do with his ladst gf he dated for 6months. But he wont tell me what his last gf did so how do I know if thats it or not. Why is it ok for him to put his arm around me but when I give him a kiss on the cheek he dont like it and pulls away and says thats going too fast? Did I do something wrong with kissing him on the cheek so soon? How do I get him to open up to me and be more willing to kiss and touch more?
2006-11-23 14:10:57 · 5 answers · asked by Lauren M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the best answer i could come up wit: ask him. wats wrong wit kissing his cheek? and see if his answer make sense. if it does, then go 4 it if not.. then its up 2 u.
i think 2 make him more open up u need 2 b more open 2 him as well. from ur story it seems like he's kinda sensitve, therefore u have 2 establish urself as 'sum1 important' in his life that he'll trust u and do more things wit u.
well good luck and hope it helps!
2006-11-23 14:15:23 · answer #1 · answered by tiiista 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He has serious issues. Please move on. I went through something similar. It is not worth it to waste your time. Let him work it out with someone else. Pulling away from a girl you are dating when she is just kissing you on the cheek is either trying to f with your self esteem, or he is just way out there from a normal nice guy, not that I think normal is that great, but this guy is gonna be nothing but trouble.
2006-11-23 22:18:52 · answer #2 · answered by crct2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I if you like him and he says not to then don't try to hold his hand or something he proabably is afraid of moving too fast because he does not want to get hurt again so he put up that wall it has nothing to do with you he is just protecting himself so maybe he won't get hurt again. . . when the time is right he will tell you what happened between him and his ex its only been three weeks though
2006-11-23 22:15:37 · answer #3 · answered by Smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you were moving too fast - you just have two different paces. You could try to talking about this with him. However, if you two just can't come to terms you may want to try for someone more similar to you. I hope everything works well for you!
2006-11-23 22:17:38 · answer #4 · answered by cotopaximary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probly doesnt want to have sex and thats what he thinks it will lead to if you kiss him on the first date. did you kno him before your first date?? just slow down and communicate with him to get him to trust you and then open up to you.
2006-11-23 22:15:15 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ha ha 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋