Not like most questions: but you see there are only a few real stories of true unconditional love, why is that. Almost every person I know can enjoy love, take love, share love and abuse love, destroy love and turn love into total hate, but the one thing almost no one can seam to do is give love unconditionally. In case your wondering I am one of those stories, a single dad raising an autistic child and I have had to give unconditional love every minute of every day, every day of every year, so if I can give it to my son why can't I find some one who can give it to me or at least understand what it is I would like them to give to me. Well good luck answering this and please enjoy your thought while you do.
2006-11-23 14:09:53 · 7 answers · asked by john_borst2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're asking a very important question. First, I want to applaud you for your relationship with your son, especially as a single dad. Some people may see being a single parent as a strike against you and having a child with autism as a second strike. However, I thank you for not accepting those views. Your son is a wonderful person and is extremely fortunate to have a father like you who shows this amazing unconditional love. Your son will learn how to love others by the example you show. Second, in regards to your question about why you can't find someone to love you as you love your child, I think it has to do with the same mentality that sees being a single dad to a child with austism as two strikes. Most of the time, we humans can't see past our own individual selves. We are so worried about "Looking out for number one," that we don't realize how interconnected we really are. You clearly realize that - both in your relationship with your son and in your desire for meaningful relationships with other adults. Some people may not want to have romantic relationships with you because they see these "two strikes". However, that would be like you seeing your son's austism as a strike against him, a reason why you shouldn't love him. Unconditional love, by definition, sees no reason why we shouldn't love. It has no conditions. In order to find that unconditional love from someone else, my recommendation is to show the same kind of love you have for your son to everyone else. From how you describe your relationship with your son, I can tell that is a tight bond - and I imagine your son shows you that same kind of love in return. Continue loving people - your son, people you are romantically interested in, all people. You cannot control how other people will respond to you. However, genuinely loving people is never a bad thing. And, since we are all searching for that amazing unconditional love, someone will feel that love from you, realize that it is okay to love people that openly, and show the same to you. It's not an easy process - because we get our selfishness in the way so often - but it is definitely a process worth being in.
2006-11-23 14:28:02 · answer #1 · answered by Eastern US Guy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unconditional Love is one of those things that we share with the people we trust, care about and would do anything for. This is my definition, not Mr. Webster's. I personally don't believe I have ever experienced it with anyone, except for family, we all have a tendency to love our families with are whole soul, even if we do get mad at them. To find that one "special" person to cherish your entire life seems to be nonexistint. There are trust issues everytime you turn around, also if you have been hurt in the past you have your gaurd up at all time, and when you are protecting yourself you can not experience unconditional love. I believe that there is a certain someone out here for us all, soulmate. If unconditional love is what someone wants then they certainly have to give it in return. Your son deserves and should get yours. When it comes to men and women it's not that easy. I wish it could be. Good Luck and thank you for stirring my mind with your question.
2006-11-23 22:31:36 · answer #2 · answered by stuffy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because people are shellfish and imperfect with no real values, integrity or sense of self worth.
My heart goes out to you John, I was a single mom with teenagers before I married again.
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I hope you find someone who will love you the way you deserve to be loved.
2006-11-23 22:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by Here I Am 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u have 2 be realized god men and u attract what u r simple as that unconditional ;love this is highest form of love on this planet u can count ppl on fingers something like that
2006-11-23 22:14:51 · answer #4 · answered by george p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can be very cruel and selfish. Someday you will meet the right person. It just takes time is all. And when you do, you will know that this person really knows how to love someone.
2006-11-23 22:18:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are expecting someone to pour love on you, maybe you have to pour some love their way. Unconditional love is what dogs do. People are more complicated.
2006-11-23 22:13:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
people only think of themselves now aday and it only gets worse every day. so good luck . I hope you find someone that will love you and your child.
2006-11-23 22:14:18 · answer #7 · answered by masterzuaba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋