my boyfriend dumped me after we had been together for 11 months
but when we had been together for 2 he isisted several times that he would never leave me and gave me a promise ring suggesting this......was he feeding me bull crap or what?
2006-11-23 14:04:19 · 19 answers · asked by strawberyskitl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He was feeding you bull crap..
2006-11-23 14:07:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
No he probably meant it at the time and at the time he couldn't envision life without you. Unfortunately he's human and therefore unpredictable and what he said and meant 9 months ago does not necessarily hold true now. I think the best way to approach this sort of thing when someone makes promises like this (of an emotional nature) is to accept them and believe they mean it at the time of saying it - but emotions are fickle and prone to change...if someone changes their mind it doesn't make them a liar, just human. You have probably done the same thing at some stage and if not, you probably will in the future.
2006-11-23 14:10:30 · answer #2 · answered by Kble 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Probably well meant at the time of saying but we move on in life and things change. If the guy is in a new relationship not so easy to be there for you always.....and likewise if you are in a new relationship how can you be there for him?
Would not go as far as saying all crap but life changes sometimes complicate.
2006-11-23 20:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, he meant every word he said at the time. For the first 90 days of an intimate relationship, everything is perfect and you are on your best behavior. After the 90th day, reality comes into play, with the attitudes, angers, disappointments, past relationship burnouts etc..
Everything prior to the 90th day should be taken with a grain of salt. Think it's unnatural to count? Well, women automatically count every month so it is easy for them. Harder for men.
2006-11-23 14:12:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
People make promises like that all the time (weddings). The divorce rate is over 50% now so I guess promises don't mean much to the majority of people
2006-11-23 14:11:37 · answer #5 · answered by bigbadwolf 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he truly believed it at the time, no! Think of how many people you have in your life that you've made promises to. Even basic ones like "staying in touch". I'm sure you meant it when you said it, but 6 months later you haven't made the effort!
2006-11-23 15:32:14 · answer #6 · answered by Pixxxie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He very likely meant it, and even though it's natural you're wrong for blaming him now.
At that point in your relationship, if he were as in love with you as he possibly could be by then but completely honestly & rationally told you it was impossible to tell if he would always love you or always be there for you, you would get totally pissed at him and maybe even dump him on the spot.
2006-11-23 14:20:35 · answer #7 · answered by John's Secret Identity™ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
After two months, probably not. But as relationships go on, you change. You relax in each others company and probably little things like the way he chews his food, or the way you tap your fingers, silly little things that seemed cute at first, start really getting on your nerves. Taking too long in the bathroom, wearing the wrong earrings... You name it, it can cause a rift in a relationship. It's just one of those things. But no, at two months, I bet he loved you like crazy. It's just life.
2006-11-23 14:10:18 · answer #8 · answered by Val G 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hey, come on - he probably meant it at the time, but people do change.
I used to tell my ex I was going to always love him - but I don't anymore, so it can't have been true. I meant it back then so I wasn't lying.
Sounds like you're hurting a lot at the moment - give it time, you'll feel better soon.
2006-11-23 14:09:14 · answer #9 · answered by Hello Dave 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes and No. No because then he was loving and caring for you and he told you that you'd always be together. Yes because he promised to never leave you and that is wrong.
2006-11-23 14:09:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You might never know. People say a lot of things and mean it at the time, but after time goes by, things change.
2006-11-23 14:06:28 · answer #11 · answered by msmicki7777 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋