Should a man ask me to choose between him and my best male friend whom I have known for 3 years b4 I met him I think that wud be allowing him to control me and wud be nasty to my best friend What do u think?
2006-11-23 13:54:17 · 25 answers · asked by maryjane 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hell NO!
2006-11-23 13:55:39 · answer #1 · answered by Kathy23 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to go out and make a woman friend to spend a lot of time with. Then you will be happy, everything will work out, and you two will live happily ever after.
I'm sure all the women on here would agree with me based on their answers... they probably love it that their boyfriends/husbands have women best friends they spend time with.
If he doesn't like then this, then you have a decision to make(take it or leave it). You'll probably end up with the friend anyways in the long run.
If you can't be best friends with your boyfriend, then it's not going to work and there is no point dating them. Who wants to be number 2?
In another question, you said you had a relationship with your 'friend' for 2 years and now you two talk all the time and hug and take a nap hugging each other. You and the all the women who answered this question are crazy, and that's why I'm never getting married.
2006-11-23 22:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noway...how can you possibly crap on your friend for a guy you just met. Where is your loyalty. Let them meet each other and get to know one another so the new bf wont be so jealous. If you bf wont except then hes a control freak. Even if your so called friend wants more from you that shouldnt matter since you are the one in control and your bf should trust you but you need to earn that trust. Give it some time. The new bf might not be around long enough for you to have to choose.
2006-11-23 21:59:27 · answer #3 · answered by Ivory_Flame 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most boyfriends HATE their gf's having "best friends" that are guys. Just look at all the questions on here from guys that have feelings for the best friends (that happen to be girls) and they want to know how to proceed. Your bf is uncomfortable with you having a best friend that is a guy because he knows that 99.9% of the time the best friend secretly likes you.
I'd place money that your best friend does have feelings for you too. Tell you what you should do. Get your best friend alone somewhere and tell him that you'd like to have sex with him and see if he says "NO, I can't it would ruin the friendship" lol lol trust me, he AINT GOING TO SAY THAT. Your bf is very smart for see thru this little friendship thing your best friend has with you.
2006-11-23 22:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by bigbadwolf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best friend is a guy and we have been best friends for 16 years! Never let your guy come between you and your male friends especially if they were in your life first! One thing you need to realize is, your male friends will be there no matter what and the guy won't!
2006-11-23 21:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by rhythmoftheblues 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. Don't let him make you decide anything. If it comes down to it, always choose your friends. If he's making you choose, then he's not worth the time. He's a compulsive control artist and that's just the tip of the iceburg.
2006-11-23 21:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by Gordo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, first of all, if your bf is forcing you to get rid of your best friend, there is an issue here. You need to talk to your boyfriend about this. Second, you NEVER talk about your best friend if he's a guy to your bf. That was your mistake, but you need to make amends. Talk to your boyfriend, tell him that you're not gonna make a decision, but you won't force them to be together. He can't stop you unless you decide to drop a friend.
2006-11-23 22:03:45 · answer #7 · answered by Angie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you have to realize once you are serious about a boyfriend, and are spending time with him, that it's time to drop "male" friends - whether that sounds wrong or not, that's just how it goes. Your best friend should be your boyfriend, if it is serious and leading somewhere.
2006-11-23 22:11:58 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i don't think there is a neccessity to let a girl chose between the boyfriend & the bestfriend..a guy will only do this if he is really important for the girl..it would be more better if you let your man understand that there is nothing going on between you and your bestfriend..make him feel that there is a BIG difference between him & your best mate..Ã
2006-11-23 21:59:55 · answer #9 · answered by -= Qtee =- 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
absolutely NOT. If he's making you choose between them, he either doesn't trust you (which he should have no reason not to unless you're unfaithful) or he's insecure. He's not the right guy for you if he can't respect you or your friends. besides, boyfriends come and go...friends are for life.
2006-11-23 21:59:39 · answer #10 · answered by extreme98 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think your "man" is wrong on this one, if he truly cared, trusted you, etc he wouldn't have to make you choose, go with your friend on this one. The guy your with is trying to control you and if you let him it will only get worse especially if you stay with him.
~Pisce-Pegasus
2006-11-23 22:51:59 · answer #11 · answered by Pisce-Pegasus 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋