I'll be spent and she's just warming up... Then she gets upset and says she thinks I'm just using her and as far as I'm concerned she could be, ". . . any old hole." I love her and want to satisfy her sexually. I need advice.
2006-11-23 13:51:48 · 41 answers · asked by jimppanzee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a common problem with many couples. The key to "great sex" is taking your time. A woman needs to be relaxed before she can even want to experience pleasure. Run your fingers lightly all over her body without touching her "privates" and her breasts. Tease her by always running you fingers in the direction of her zones and then quickly pulling away and running your finger elsewhere. Be sure to spend a lot of time rubbing her clit because this allows her to build up desire for you. For a woman an orgasm is all about the buildup of pleasure where as a man's orgasm is all about the release. Just remember to take your time and make her feel great before you enter her.
Oh yeah and read Men are from mars women are from venus in the bedroom you won't regret it. My husband doesn't
2006-11-23 14:01:12 · answer #1 · answered by Kelsey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Play with her before you go all the way in. It works. Touch her until you hand/finger hurts or gets tired, then use your other anatomy parts. Mouth, toungue, etc. It might be a little selfish to just satisfy yourself, I agree with her, but you can also extend the pleasure for both of you if you do some eroic play. Also, you can exercise your penis, so you last longer, but that... I'll leave to you because it depends on how long you last. Do some search in the web or books of how you can improve your timing. WIth this, you'll both have a great time every night.
2006-11-23 13:57:23 · answer #2 · answered by Dark Knight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be difficult to understand or it may be easy, depends on you. There is a physical and mental aspect of the sexual experience which has to be kept in balance. If the physical is moving quickly you must slow down the mental and vice-versa.
Remove time and long and short out your mind because that may be her trip and not yours. Relax and have fun. Your not making a porno movie and it's not supposed to be work or something you have to achieve.
Most importantly, stay in the moment. That is the ultimate power, few people use. Your three steps ahead of her in fantasy. Stay in the present and you will be a super lover.
2006-11-23 13:59:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.k so you are a short guy. well how about trying some fore play before sex. make sure that she climax at lease once before you climb on top. play with her invent stuff and try new things .
ice, syrup, fruits, just start caring about her feeling instead of how quick you are.
and for you when you feel like you are about to climax simply pull out and wait a little and then start again and you will find that you are starting over and this will drive her crazy as well.
put in the tip and remove it several times while you kiss her things like that will help your relationship.
2006-11-23 14:01:38 · answer #4 · answered by fancy4not 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend more time on the fore play, that really helps a girl. Instead of just getting on and taking care of yourself try talking to her during the foreplay and sex and see what REALLY turns her on. A guy can do a lot for a girl that doesn't involve his penis, fingers and tongue are a great help. And once you see (and hear) how much pleasure she is getting you are going to enjoy it almost as much as her. That is, if you truly love her like you say.
2006-11-23 13:56:41 · answer #5 · answered by tlking70 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a known fact that men come in a much shorter time than women. Did you know that mouths, especially tongues, can be used for much more than talking and eating. Well, in this case eating may be what you need to do. Get the tongue stroking before you start poking and that will get a smile on her dial.
2006-11-23 13:57:00 · answer #6 · answered by pie_eyed_63 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all your quote is very demeaning to your girlfriend ... if my boyfriend said anything like that about me..he would be out the door.
Second... You are totally clueless about sex and how to do it correctly. Yuck
Third get some books, talk to some guys, you are selfish. It would be better if you spared her self esteem and just went into the bathroom for 5 min. and had sex with yourself.
2006-11-23 14:00:16 · answer #7 · answered by kar_summers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're about to explode, think about something that's not attractive in the least bit. bring toys into it, a vibrator of some sort and when she's rather heated, then start to do it with her. Maybe you'll come together. It's very important to please your partner. Buy her the Hitachi magic wand. it's a woman's best friend, she'll think of it as you thinking about her needs. look it up. It's a great tool. cheers. ;-)
2006-11-23 13:55:28 · answer #8 · answered by Arthur Andrews. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long does it take you? If it's under 15 minutes, you need to think of Rosie o'Donnel or some other cow before to splooge. Imagine this: Ice cold ground beef slathered all over Janet Reno's hot, wrinkley.....nipple.
2006-11-23 13:55:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds silly, but try thinking about something else and if you get too excited slow down and focus on her needs once in awhile.
Also, try foreplay and oral sex on her so she can get really excited and even have an orgasm maybe before you guys even have sex.
Also, you can make it a "goal" to orgasm with her. It's possible , works nicely, and it gives you something to reach for;)
2006-11-23 13:55:49 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋