Im very shy and sometimes I let it mess things up. I meet guys and I am attracted to them and enjoy there company but I just cant seem to bring myself pass that. I have a big trust issue and its hard for me to let them in and see the REAL me. What can i do?!?
2006-11-23 13:49:02 · 11 answers · asked by AngieD 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would like to meet u, cause i can b that way too
2006-11-23 13:51:48 · answer #1 · answered by big win 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can be a very difficult and painful situation. All of us have past experiences that shape how we relate to people. If you have big trust issues as well as being shy, it may seem like other people are luckier than you when it comes to finding that special someone. Remember, though, that they have their own problems too that their significant others have to understand. In your case, I would recommend finding a place or activity where you feel comfortable. Where do you meet these guys? At work? At school? You said that you enjoy their company, so apparently you have already spent some time together. That's a step in the right direction. How are you attracted to them? Is it physical? Is it because of their personalities? Is it because of their interests? Wherever you have met these guys is something that you already have in common - such as school or workplace. Start simple with the things you have in common. Relationships take time. ALL of us want people to see the real person inside and still like us - even after seeing our "warts and all." However, start with simple conversation for now. Help these guys to know who you are. After you are able to have conversations about simple things, like the things you have in common, then you will be able to move into other conversations about deeper issues and how you are attracted to them. One step at a time, though.
2006-11-23 22:11:27 · answer #2 · answered by Eastern US Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open up and let the real you out! You DO run the chance of getting hurt this way but its the only way you'll ever find someone to make you happy. Remember, you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince. Good luck!!!
2006-11-23 21:54:09 · answer #3 · answered by rudee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know, cause i was a shy guy ,talk about yourself,smile,think of your answer's beforehand, and learn to talk more.Say good morn mom dad whoever say HI thing's will improve believe in yourself ,more o. k .Victor.F
2006-11-23 22:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by Victorio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to work on your self-esteem. Until you feel strong enough to show the real you even if it makes you feel vulnerable, it is unlikely you will attract any quality guys.
Good luck!
2006-11-23 21:53:27 · answer #5 · answered by taotemu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's ok, the right guy will show up that looks past that, it's nothing major that will keep you from getting married, i know this is an obvious answer, and easier said than done, but open up, and let go
2006-11-23 21:53:29 · answer #6 · answered by altmetal4christ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax, and just be you. Don't worry about their perceptions of you, and just do things the way you usually do when they aren't around. Also, have trust in yourself, and be cool & calm, and also, be open to new stuff.
2006-11-23 21:52:13 · answer #7 · answered by Tar Heel 4 Life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i use to be like that i one day say to mydelf if u keep been like that u will never get some woo-hoo and kids and i am more less shy
2006-11-23 21:54:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really can only try to get to know them and start to trust them and watch so they dont take andvantage of that trust sry if this doesnt help
2006-11-23 21:53:12 · answer #9 · answered by bandgeek319 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have sex.....simple
2006-11-23 21:52:36 · answer #10 · answered by serengeti 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋