I'm a 21 year old guy, and every time I meet a girl who seems to be interested in me, they suddenly brush me off when they find out that I don't go or don't plan to go to college. Even though I have never went to college, that doesn't make me any less of a person. I don't think it's fair to reject me for this reason.
2006-11-23 13:41:49 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go to college.
2006-11-23 13:43:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would and I have, but that often hasn't worked well, probably because of the discrepancy. I have two degrees that I worked really hard for, and a great career. When I was at university, I pretty much dated university guys, except for a few who were at technical school. There is a certain commonality between people who go through post-secondary education. It certainly doesn't mean that you are not as smart as they are, or are "less than" - it's just different. That's why guys who have all the money in the world or all the good looks don't get the great women - women hold out for more.
I ended up marrying a man with a lot of years of technical school under his belt, and a lot of years of work experience. He is as smart as I am, his life experiences are totally different than mine, but we share a lot regardless. Being educated shows you have ambition, a goal - even if that goal isn't a job, it's the thirst for knowledge. Some people just like that.
Be more confident in what you have to offer - and sorry to tell you that because you haven't gone to college probably really isn't the reason girls may not be interested in you. Maybe you have a chip on your shoulder about that, and are defensive. Wish you luck....
2006-11-23 14:09:30 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're so right. Going to college doesn't make you successful in life. If a girl rejects you when she finds out about you not going to college then she is not worth much as a person herself. How can people judge someone just on their level of education. Start looking in different places. There are lots and lots of nice people out there, just like you, who are successful, happy and well adjusted people who haven't been to college.
2006-11-23 13:56:02 · answer #3 · answered by Moira S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So? I in no way went, yet that does no longer mean i'm dumb. I also have a IQ of 143, and that i've got owned 2 diverse Pizza places, and not i'm a proprietor Operator. playstation I make approximately a hundred and twenty,000 a year and off each and every weekend. Hmm, no longer many college grads make that.
2016-10-04 07:31:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you (and yes, my boyfriend did NOT go to college), but I guess most women are looking for a guy who has a 'bright future' and most consider that to be through education. Maybe you need to re-think the way you're explaining yourself.
Turn a negative into a positive - instead of saying 'i'm not going to college and never plan to' deflect the question by saying what you DO plan to do with your life.
Say 'College isn't part of my plan, as I don't need to go...' then say what you are doing or plan to do with yourself career wise.
Good luck :-)
2006-11-23 13:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by the_fatmanwalksalone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go to college. These days it is getting harder & harder to find a decent career without college (I know because I never went to college), but to answer your question.......
Maybe the women feel that you have no drive. Women want to be taken care of.....even though we can take care of ourselves...
we all want our knight in shining armour. At 21 you probably dont have much money, you live in an apt with your friends and you like to party. This is normal at 21, but what the girls see is
their future. Since you arent trying to better yourself they figure this is what you are gonna do for the rest of your life.
Also, maybe the girls are just superficial and realize that you are never gonna be fithy rich.....so why bother.
Hope this helps.
2006-11-23 13:48:08 · answer #6 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Neither do I, college is not for everyone, well thats one way of weeding out ,the person for you, you don't need anyone, so shallow to refuse you because you dont want to go to college. There are so many things to do and be in life , w/o a college education. Good luck to you!...
2006-11-23 13:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me it would depend on the reasons you aren't going to college. If it's just because you don't feel like it, or are lazy, or aren't creative enough to come up with a way to pay for it on your own...OR if I feel like you would resent MY education (I have a master's) then I would have serious hesitations. But if you are already doing something you are passionate about and good at...besides partying...then I would look at it differently.
I don't need a man to support me.......but I don't want to support a man, either!
2006-11-23 14:05:15 · answer #8 · answered by darlingdybbuk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're dating the wrong type of women for you. Even though its not totally wrong that certain women only want to date certain men, they tend to lose out by missing out on a good thing. Keep trying, you will find out there are alot of women that don't necessary care about your education, as long as you are interesting and respect yourself. Keep your head up.
2006-11-23 13:48:49 · answer #9 · answered by quiet_king 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to go to college to be smart. There's nothing wrong with not going to college. Yeah, I would go for a guy who have never been to college. That doesn't make him any less of a man.
2006-11-23 13:47:38 · answer #10 · answered by Diabla 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i .. honesty it would't bother me oh and i am a women. i say it wouldn't bother me because as long as a guy treats me correctly and protects me from any harms . guys don't have to know what 12x12 is who cares about school. if you like someone then that means u like some one . if that person doesn't like u 4 u then that person is a dumb butt. if i like someone andthey say oh you did not go to college i would just say "well i think god is not ready for me to finish school." that is exactly what i would say. so every women you meet tell them up front you did / don't plan to go to college and if they turn you down that means they will be sorry
love Rosillea
2006-11-23 13:55:25 · answer #11 · answered by BRYTNI 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋