I feel depressed most of the time.
Nothing has worked out in my life. My child lives with my ex and she is not doing well in school. My ex and I thought that we would get back together, but we could not for various reasons. I feel like i have failed at my marriage. I just started a new job and I absolutely hate it.
I constantly feel like crying and am bottled up. I don't know what to do. I went to a Thanksgiving dinner and could not stay because I was afraid I would break down and cry in front of everyone. I feel sad looking at the state of my life compared to others.
So, I chose to attend a luncheon with a Newly Singles group, stop by at some friends house and then come home on Thanksgiving. My parents with whom I live went to the friend's house. I look and feel like a total wreck. I feel like I have nothing to look forward to in life and nothing positive to talk about in my life.
2006-11-23 13:35:08 · 12 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Do something nice for yourself as often as you can
Don't keep things bottled up - let them out periodically. Buy a journal and let it pour out onto the paper.
Always remember that there are people that love you and that you are never alone. Call someone up to say "Hi, I've missed you....."
Buy a gift for someone in need. Visit someone in a nursing home that never gets a visitor. Get a letter to Santa at the post office and get some things that a child wants for Christmas. (Buy a gift for yourself too)..... These things lift you up tremendously!!!
Look in the mirror and learn to smile at yourself. See (and feel) the smile from that person in the mirror.
2006-11-23 13:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Antidepressants have helped me enormously. Some people don't want to go there, but if you consider depression to be an illness, then taking medication makes a lot of sense. It seems like you have explored other avenues so really, this is your next step. Consult a psychiatrist, or if you can't afford that or your health plan doesn't cover it, then a regular GP can also prescribe antidepressants. This is just a start. Once the medication kicks in and you no longer have the urge to burst into tears, you can take a look at your life. You can then make some better decisions.
2006-11-23 21:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by Dr Know It All 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Before I read your whole question, I thought he needs to cry and get it out. Then I read it and you say you feel like crying. we have tear ducts for a reason. We all need a healthy release for our emotions. If you bottle up anger or sadness or anxiety it will make you either sick or depressed. Cry. Then discuss with yourself all the things you are angry about. Just tell the truth about what you are angry about. Anger is not shameful, it's just human, but keeping it in or not being truthful about what you are angry about will make you depressed. It's great that you are making the effort to get out. That's half the battle. You are staying involved in life going to the singles group and everything. You sound like a great guy-just give yourself time to get over stuff. Also, anything physical will break you out of that depressed rut. Dancing around the house, taking a walk, pumping iron. Good luck. And don't deprive those single women of your presence!
2006-11-23 21:48:04 · answer #3 · answered by OK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you must go through. Give youer self a little time to over come the break up of your marriage. You're not a failure. It take s two to tengle and two to break a marriage. So do not blame your self and take it all.
I know you have the blues right now. Counseling would help you a lot, and put things into a different perspective. If you ever feel like talking just email me. I have a good listening ear. Sincerely greetings from Utah.
2006-11-23 21:56:55 · answer #4 · answered by angelikabertrand64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to keep busy. When you sit and think to much, it makes the depression worse. When you think your life is bad, remember there are alot of people going thru a lot worse than you. Thats what i tell myself, when i feel down.
2006-11-23 21:41:52 · answer #5 · answered by tinamaries43 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with friends and try not to think of some neg. thoughts. Getting out of depression takes some time.
2006-11-23 21:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by sellatieeat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have experienced similar situation it lasted for about 5 years.First dont try to manage your pain it will only wear you out. Instead embrace it,let it all out ,let it hurt you all it can.This will help purge your sadness. Then count any blessing you can think of.This will help.And lastly face and except what you can't change.Then you can to begin to heel
2006-11-23 22:18:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you started a new job and have been attending that group, then you may at this point need to see a doctor. I am really sorry....
2006-11-23 21:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I feel alot like that .I walk or exercize,and it helps .Even if you feel like a loser ,everyone is in some way .You just don't know as much about them as yourself. Praying helps .Cheer up ,this too shall pass .
2006-11-23 21:59:43 · answer #9 · answered by rl153 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is the only way out of depression.
If you do not forgive those who wronged you, including yourself, then you will always be angry and that turns into depression.
2006-11-23 21:37:24 · answer #10 · answered by Phrosty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋