My best friend is a girl i have known for about a year now and since the time i first met her i have had a crush on her, but i dont know what to do. When we first started hanging out we were both real flirty and always around each other (she hungout with me more than with her current boyfriend) after a few months when she was single again word started spreading to her that i like her and vise versa, but her (being bad at relationships/has alot of them) didnt want to ruin our friendship and just wanted to be friends b/c she didnt want to lose me. With that there i just let it cooled off and we were back at it again during summer, she would call me and talk everynight and yet again had another boyfriend (but hungout with me more). Now back at school with her i have grown to really like her more than a friend but i dont know what to do and i dont know if she likes me that way or not..i dont want to ruin our friendship but this feeling has been bothering me but i dont know what to do : (
2006-11-23 13:25:18 · 7 answers · asked by sumdood2005 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's no use, you're in love and you have already suffered through 2 or more of her bfs. it's make or break time. either go for it or stay pally and suffer some more.
of course if you go for it, it is either heaven or eternal suffering. and even these things dont last. but who cares? you only have 1 life to live.
are you a man? or just a friend? only you can choose.
2006-11-23 13:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by lsl4x 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say leave it be. Honestly, when I've had good guy friends and they want to get into more, no matter how close we are it's never the same after there's been the romantic aspect of our relationship.
Give it time. You're just a kid in school--if this sort of thing is meant to be more than friendship, it will be. But give yourself a chance to meet more girls, date around a little, and make sure it isn't just a crush making your insides all jiggly. A lifelong friend is WAY more valuable than a fling, no matter how painful it is at the TIME to let them go. Like I said, in later times, you may find you two are perfect for each other and then, kudos and much happiness. I can only hope, for your sake, that you take my advice on this one, because I now hate one of my former best friends because our romantic relationship ended badly.
Wait it out. Give these things time, it's not like if you don't pounce now, she'll be gone forever. Good luck, and remember that crushes are hard to ignore, but most of the time, it turns out WAY better for having waited.
2006-11-23 13:37:14 · answer #2 · answered by Eevie H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want to ruin the friendship, then getting into a relationship is not a good idea. I think you should try avoiding to flirt or hang out that much to let the feelings fade.
2006-11-23 13:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by Cali C. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly I think your whole situation is kinda rormantic. Secondly both of you need to separately consider why past relationships ended so badly. If both of you feel that you can pursue this relationship and still remain friends if things go sour, go for it. But have a honest sit down talk about it first.
2006-11-23 13:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by poisonette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i barely read that but...if your both flirty to eachother whats the problem? but beware dude if could! ruin your friendship with her...maybe ask her and she say no be normal like it never happend. dont act strange around her or she will think your a creep!
2006-11-23 13:28:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes telling a girl that you are good friends with that you like her is not a good idea. Guess it just depends on the girl.
2006-11-23 13:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally agree with lsl4x took the words from my tips
2006-11-23 13:44:43 · answer #7 · answered by sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋