It's not what it used to be.....?

Question

The past few family gatherings it has been different.
All my older cousins are bringing their gfs/bfs
lots of aunts/uncles/cousins don't come
my grandpa has passed, my grandma seems depressed
my older cousins ignore me and are kinda mean


my younger cousins annoy me
they are actually mean to me too
my cousin has a daughter
I am stuck in the middle
and it's not what it used to be

and it makes me sad :(

Answer 1

Invite 1 or 2 of your good friends to go with you and ignore your cousins

Answer 2

I know it makes you sad but that is just the way life is. My family circle used to be much larger with many cousins, aunts and uncles and all, and now that I'm fifty, things are difinitely not the same as when I was 14 or 15. People move away and pass away. Things change.

I'm grateful for what I have. For the past several years the Lord has blessed me with a place to go on Thanksgiving with my mom and until three years ago with my dad as well. You're young and will make new friends and connections that will be strong and supportive as you grow older. You may even have a family of your own in five or ten years. Yes, times change and loved ones do go on to a better place, but I'm confident that you'll never be alone.

Answer 3

I can relate because today is Thanks Giving and I felt the very same way. No one seemed to be in the mood for Thanks and it was so depressing. My bf was so late for the gathering I cried. Nothing is the same anymore and it is so depressing. My daughter is 2 and she is exposed to so much tension in our family. I hate having to bring her around that type of environment. I would give anything for just one holiday my family could sit around laugh and be happy. I wish we could get it back. Despite the problems for once we need to just be happy. Maybe if we both called a family meeting and just talked to everyone and let them know how we felt that would be a start. Someone has to be the adult. We should stop looking for everything to get better and start making changes ourselves.

Answer 4

U know people change, u probably change 2, everything changes during the years...i know it sounds confusing...but u know that everything can't be the same every year...everything has to change... but don't be sad a mean u got a life going try to understand everyone be happy at least make your grandma happy...good luck & smile b/c time goes by fast!!!

Answer 5

Those things happen. It's called change.
You have no reason to be sad though. You are with family. Many of those who you will only see once a year anyway, so what does it matter if one or two of them go out of their way to give you grief. Plus as you have already learned, some of those who you will never see again, so enjoy their company while you can.

None of that really makes you sad. You get sad because you choose to be.

This year choose to be happy. :)

Answer 6

That's life.
When kids are younger, they spend more time together with their families. When kids are older, they tend to differentiate not because they don't love you but because there is more going on in their lives and they are more self centered.

When adults are younger, they have more energy and patience to be with their families and friends. When adults get older, they lose their strenghts and their health deteriorates and fold to depression, loneliness, and alzhemiers.

Change is part of life. Later on in life, you WILL want to move on in your life and will not be involved in the family too much. You will understand then if not now.

Answer 7

lol its ok same thing is happening to me on one side of the family. my aunt takes in kids who parents abuse them so they come to family stuff there are 6 of them lol. all my cousins are like in there 20's and so they have like all there friends at the gatherings and are getting married bringing bf/gf's etc. but what i do is i tend to stick near my parents. or w/ a aunt or uncle or grandparent that likes you and will stick up for you. it is kinda sad. i hope things work out for you. good luck.

Answer 8

Im really sorry to hear that sweetie. Times change, though, as do people. Your family still loves you...that's all you need to know. Things will get better.

Answer 9

I am really sorry for you, but know that you are not alone.
Life changes, people change, but one day when are grown up and have a family of your own.......you will have your happy holidays back.

Answer 10

confront them and comfort them! be the one to cheer everyone up or put a smile on their faces! believe me its possible! make sure to remind them that tonight is a nite made especially for families and that they need to forget about everything else at least for this one nite!