My former co-worker and I have reconnected after a year and now we are having sex. When we worked together, we really bonded because he took me under his wing and taught me everithing I know about the job we do. Now that we are talking again he is teaching me about sex ( I have only had one partner before him and I'm very inexperienced) and how to use men to get what I want(he told me to listen to Tom Leykis so i can learn how men think). He tells me that he doesnt want a relationship now and that the only women he will have as girlfriends are models and blondes( I am neither). I act tough and say tthat I don't want to fall in love and that I just use him as a human dildo. I pretend not to care when he tells me about his past conquests and how his past girlfriend was the best lover he ever had.We get along so well that he even called me his best friend. He sends me mixed messages about our relationship that I can't tell if he will ever love me.
2006-11-23 12:57:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know, it's all about maturity, when you are young you want to see the world and that means having as many sexual conquest as you can, having different girlfriends with different nationalities, having threesomes, foursomes, having sex with no string attached, getting drunk until the dawn, having to have no responsibilities, nobody to call and travling the world. But, as soon as you hit you mid 20's to 30's, things gets little complicated, you start to realize that you would still like to screw but you would really like to settle down with someone special and spend the rest of your life together. So, give him some time and believe me if you guys have good chemistry, he will come back to you.
2006-11-23 13:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by ILGAndS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stuff that happens in movies like "pretty woman" don't always happen in real life, not saying that I'm calling you a prostitute, but I'm saying that booty calls usually end with someone feelings getting hurt if all the rules arnt understood by each party. Like you said, he doesn't want to be in a relationship, he only wants to have sex, so that means little or no romance, phone calls, time, and other things. You have to ask yourself, and be truthful, if you are willing to accept this happily and for how long. Because in the end he might not even wind up with you how you want it to be, you would be hurt if after everything, he made some other girl his girlfriend, wouldn't you? And sweetie, no matter what you believe, no one deserves to be just a booty call if they want something more, there are plenty of more fish in the sea.
2016-03-29 07:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best friend to him is a friend with benefits.Do you know what that means?(sex,just sex),and that is easy for him because he (only dates models and blonds) and you are neither.That should tell you that to him,that's all you are.A booty call.He is not the kind of guy you want for a real relationship.He has done nothing but tell you how much he enjoy moving around from woman to woman.You listen to Tom Leykis,who ever that is.And after you have heard what he has to say,you should make a decision on whether you will be his booty call,or will you move on to a real life.If you still want to see this guy then so be it.
2006-11-23 13:15:31 · answer #3 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will he ever love you, I don't know. But what I do know is that you are in a very difficult situation that needs to change. For one he is using you for all the wrong reasons , and it sort of seems like you don't respect yourself. Even though you have feelings for this guy you should at least have enough respect for yourself to do what you know is right and leave him, because from this stand point it is not going to get better, but worse. Plus he dosen't even want a relationship from you but sex. So do yourself a favor and leave before it's too late and you get too caught up.
2006-11-23 13:13:40 · answer #4 · answered by ghain39 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think that he is going to return the feelings that you have towards him. Honestly, it sounds to me like he is just using you for sex. If anything, be glad that he is upfront and honest about not wanting anything more from you.
2006-11-23 13:01:25 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, listen up. get out of this one fast! you are developing feelings that, i'm sorry to say, but, that he will never have. :/ he is clearly using you and it's hurting you more than you might think it is. find a man who will love you for who you are and not what you offer him in the bedroom.
2006-11-23 13:11:55 · answer #6 · answered by jrtootsiepop 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as long as you are giving up the sex he will never see you as a girl friend. you need to tell him that you are in love with him and see what he do. but as long as you are letting him use you in that way you will never be his girl friend. he just want sex!!!
2006-11-23 13:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just sex if you cannot handle that, then you need to end it before you get hurt.
2006-11-23 13:00:26 · answer #8 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So don't you think it's time to come clean with him? Try telling him want you think about him and what you want.
2006-11-23 13:01:41 · answer #9 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's an ***hole, he's using you as a whore and you are letting him.
2006-11-23 13:00:24 · answer #10 · answered by DIRI-83 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋