... and she keeps threatening to send my to a different school away from the very few friends I've made! She is telling me that I am crazy and that she is taking me to a phyciatrist and I don't want to go because they dont understand! Yesterday (before she found out) I said I was going to kill myself and she was just like whatever! She is saying she is going to take away all my stuff and saying I'm 'just doing it to be cool' and but she is the one who caused me to do it in the first place! What should I do!?
2006-11-23 12:19:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
No your mom didn't hold a gun to your head..you chose to cut as a response to things she's done...let her take you to a shrink, you'll learn alot about yourself and learn to quit feeling guilty for being angry or depressed...
The best thing you can learn is to redirect your feelings, and the worst is that you'll just go back to cutting..you've got nothing to lose and everything to gain.
2006-11-23 15:06:21 · answer #1 · answered by rynay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a former adolescent psychiatric nurse, it is obvious you and you're mom are having a communication crisis. Learning how to communicate, that is. You need more help than you will get on this site. You both need to begin seeing a therapist for family counseling. If there is a dad in the picture, then him too. The scenario you presented is a very common one. Power is the key word here. Both of you: Sit down and agree to make an appt. soon to see a family therapist. It is not only your problem nor your mom's, it's a family problem. You need some guidance or you will both go down the wrong paths and regret it.
2006-11-23 20:29:19 · answer #2 · answered by RBRN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, i agree that you both need to go to a therpist. She needs to know shes the one of the reason why you do this, so you need to tell her that her acting this way isnt helping anything, its only making things worse. She needs to find a way to help you with this problem not make it worse. Because, in actuallity .. what you are doing is a form of drug ... everytime you cut your body makes a chemical to help the pain from the cut stop bleeding and to make it numb.
All i have as advice is to let you know that, cutting isnt the answer ... it just numbs the pain .. it doesnt take it away .. if anything it makes it worse ... and about the therpist thing, you should go, i know thats not what you want to hear but it'll make you better, well help deal with things better. Therpist are not there to understand .. no studying in the whole world will ever help one human being understand another .. but they are there to listen .. and its nice sometimes to know your being heard.
please take my advice into consideration ..my mother mentually abused me ... so i know what its like to be in this situtation ..i didnt cut .. but .. i was stupid and tried some drugs.. but its not the answer ... it only made me more depressed ... thanks to my sister and the few friends that i do have .. they helped me through this ... if you want someone to listen too e-mail me xxsugar_rushxx@yahoo.com ^_^ ill be there to listen to you too if you want.
2006-11-23 20:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all what are you like 13 you neeed to see a phyciatrist if you cut to be cool that not cool at all people who do it have an illness and your just ignorant. and listen to your mom cutting is no joke you could die your foolish
2006-11-23 20:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by Samantha D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your MOM, is responsible for everything bad that happens to you. Maybe you should just move out, get a job, and start living the way you want to. Obviously if you do that you will also have to take responsibility for your life.
2006-11-23 20:35:08 · answer #5 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all... Psychiatrists arent bad people, they are there to help you.
If anyone, THEY DO UNDERSTAND.
And i do think you need help from either a psychiatrist or psychologist.
Your mom is most likely is shocked and maybe even panicing.
You should probably try talking to her.
If your mom is difficult and doesnt listen or understand you well, you should talk to another SAFE ADULT.
You have your whole life ahead of you, dont do things that you will regret. :)
2006-11-23 20:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by olivemenow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and listen to her. Maybe you won't be in as much turmoil. It is a cop out to blame bad choices on another. Stand up and be a man. Take responsibility for your actions.
2006-11-23 20:25:46 · answer #7 · answered by robert m 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
was gonna also say grow up.was waitin to see what others said,i'm definitly w/ robert.you make your own choices so deal w/ the consequences of those choices.then maybe next time you'll make a better choice for yourself..
2006-11-23 20:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by dysfunctionalyMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree w. ronibug on this one. You need someone to talk to besides on here. Plus you need to speak to a professional and get help. You and your mom are obviously having communication problems and there are counselors that can better help you and you can trust them. Please get help. This will only get worse. I'm praying for you!
2006-11-23 20:55:27 · answer #9 · answered by Mandee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you could have her act in the ideal way for you, what would have her do? ignore you? pay more attention to you? im not being smartassed, my son used to do that nd i had no clue what to do..i didnt yell or threaten him though...i asked him what he neede me to do for him....what do you think yo need? seriously think about it...then realize your mom dont know how to act....when you see blood on your kid, you tend to wig....but if you look inside yourself, maybe youll figure out why you do this to yourself....good luck
2006-11-23 22:03:51 · answer #10 · answered by s p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋