Every time I ask him to do something or he says he's going to do something, he doesn't do it, and if he does, he's 1+ hours late doing it. Sometimes I'll ask him to call me when he gets off work at 8am and he doesn't call me until 10:30... or I'll ask him to run by the store and pick something up for me before he goes to work and he doesn't do it... even more infuriating, he claims he "forgot." What could be causing this behavior and how can I put an end to it? Havey any of you been in a similar situation?
2006-11-23 12:18:53 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This man does not seem to care much about what you want. I believe that this behavior is learned. My mom is like this. She never does what she says she will do and always "forgets". I look at her behavior as the wrong thing to do and do the opposite. Well, I do not know if you can put an end to it. I think this is something he has to work on. If a man does not want to change his behavior, he just won't do it. You should probably talk to him, and if he is not receptive, and this is a big issue for you, you might need to just find someone who will meet your expectations.
2006-11-23 12:23:42 · answer #1 · answered by sarahharris25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it matter WHY he's unreliable? Will knowing why cure his unreliability? Nope. Not at all. We teach people how to treat us and he's been taught he can be unreliable toward you--he probably learned to do that before you came on the scene, right? Yes, been in the same situation but the problem was situational and we are no longer together.
2006-11-23 12:33:41 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think guys are built to be bossed around. They rebel a bit which would account for the forgetting and lateness. I think it destroys their manhood to follow orders. I think you gotta be happy with them coming through for the big stuff, forget the little things. And remember to praise good behaviour, for some reason it seems to help.
2006-11-23 12:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by jnet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like me. Just crack down and tell him he is unreliable and should call you when he gets off work or maybe he worked over time or ate dinner after work and just forgot to call you. Guys like me forget important things but remember stupid things. Sounds like him.
2006-11-23 12:27:20 · answer #4 · answered by pat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to realise that's just how he is. Probably a Capricorn! You can only change yourself, not others so choose you own battles and call him instead!! Run to the shop instead of asking him...
2006-11-23 12:23:25 · answer #5 · answered by blahblahblah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to say it but guys can be like that...sorry! but if it gets to be a real problem confont him about it. ask him whats up, ask him does he care? does he not? you need to have a solid communication and understanding...good luck
2006-11-23 12:22:27 · answer #6 · answered by kosovoknight 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep!! He is officially a man... It seems like they can never remember anything that isn't sports related. LOL
2006-11-23 12:21:09 · answer #7 · answered by lepluver 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be unreliable right back and he'll soon clue in.
2006-11-23 12:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by Kayt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like every guy.
2006-11-23 12:21:04 · answer #9 · answered by mrkitties420 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DUMP HIM!!!!! he's ungreatful to hav a girl friend.. guys like tht dont deserve a girl friend.
2006-11-23 12:21:13 · answer #10 · answered by Megan :] 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋