Okay guys, I would REALLY appreciate all genuine and honest advice. I'm a 17 year old guy, have had a girlfriend for 8 months. We're 100% great except for when I become too overprotective and question her about almost every interaction she has with guys when I'm not with her. The problem is that I trust her, but for some reason, I'm always scared about her and people of the opposite sex. I know I'm probably jealous, overprotective and controlling, because by questioning her all the time I'm probably driving her away from me and making her feel as though im the only guy she can be with.
PLEASE HELP ME :(
I really love this girl, and I want this to last as long as possible, and I NEED to fix my issue or else, the clock may be ticking on my love for an amazing woman.
2006-11-23 11:54:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's because you're young and you're probably in love with the idea of having a GF rather than actually loving your GF. Therefore you end up treating her like property instead of another human being. You need to understand that as a person she needs her freedom as well. And another thing that you wont want to hear because I didn't want to hear it when I was your age, but you don't really know what love is so it is impossible to appreciate it. Its not an insult but a fact of life. You need to mature a little bit, but you're young so have fun and worry about matters of love later in life when you can make a rational decision. Your relationship will most likely not work out at this stage of your life, but at your age it is impossible to determine whether you're really in love or even whats important concerning to your life, so don't worry about it too much. Just do what kids your age do, I wish someone had told me this when I was 17 and I wouldn't have to work 2 damn jobs right now!!
2006-11-23 12:19:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not your girlfriend you are unsure about -- it's yourself. You need to develop more self confidence. True self confidence comes from true accomplishments. You have a lot of living to do and a lot of growing up to do yet. The reason you are questioning your girlfriend is that you are not sure that you are enough. When you are more confident, you will not feel so insecure about what she does when you are not with her.
You will never have a good relationship with a girl if you continue this kind of controlling behavior. It will poison any relationship that you have.
I would advise you to talk to a counselor and think about what you can do to change yourself. Then do it.
2006-11-23 12:00:31 · answer #2 · answered by Layla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you've recognized your problem try not to be as overprotective if not you will definitely lose her and never get her back. She is going to start to hate being around you because of your attitude and will feel like a prisoner. I hope you work this out and by the way, turning gay will not help you. You will still have the same problem.
2006-11-23 12:00:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least you realize it Isa a problem. Yes you will drive her away by being like that. You should go talk to a counselor. . I'm serious this is a problem that can escalate into someone getting hurt besides a broken heart. If you get involved in a relationship you always have risks of being hurt. Your young sooner or later one of you may want to call it off. If you don't want to get hurt stay out of relationships. But get help!
2006-11-23 12:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by Stand 4 somthing Please! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awe. i think that its ok to be protective and jealous. its becomes an issue when you push the other person away constantly questioning and prying. i am the same way. so seriously ill be checking back on your answers, because i really dont know. haha
2006-11-23 11:59:31 · answer #5 · answered by Mary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you need to put yourself in her shoes...would you like some girl watching every move/interaction you have with other girls?? No rit? Well, thats exactly how she feels!
2006-11-23 11:59:16 · answer #6 · answered by HAPPY <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's simple just tell her how you feel and share your problem with her and you two can sort it out together
2006-11-23 11:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by Mary Alice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying. If she would leave u for someone else then it wasn't meant to be.
2006-11-23 12:00:47 · answer #8 · answered by angelalovin2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to just bite your tongue buddy. even though you want to say something, ask yourself if its worth ruining your relationship
2006-11-23 11:58:11 · answer #9 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋