Alright all you beautiful people! Hope you're having a great Turkey Day. Here's my predicament.
I'm an attractive 22 year old Asian man, 6'1" 210 lb, I'm also financially independent. I live with my gorgeous 21 yr old Caucasian girlfriend whom I've known since HS. Recently she got pregnant! After MUCH discussion, we decided to have the baby. Problem is, her parents don't even know we've been living together for the past 3 months. How the heck are we going to break THIS news?
Am I stressing over nothing? We're both adults and finance isn't really even an issue; we both work and get paid well. I guess I'm worried because although I've had good relations with mom, her dad doesn't really like me. He's just overprotective I guess. Anyways...
I should be ecstatic about the baby and here I am worried about what her parents will think.
BUT, they're hosting the Thanksgiving dinner tonight. Should we tell them in front of everyone? Good or Bad idea?? I'm leaving in 30 minutes!! Gulp
2006-11-23 11:36:20 · 13 answers · asked by CAL07 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I don't know if I'd tell them in front of everyone under those circumstances but its going to become apparent pretty soon. As you said you are both adults and financially independent so i give you applause for your mature attitude. I don't blame you for being stressed but the sooner you get the news out into the open and be honest the better for you all. Remember they probably will be shocked especially because you've kept the living arrangement secret but I am sure they will be thrilled about a grandchild. good Luck and Congratulations
2006-11-23 11:45:20 · answer #1 · answered by buffybot67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Tell them in front of everyone. If this is truly someting you are happy about, why act like you're not?
Like you said, you are both adults and financially prepared/capable of raising this child. So share your wonderful news. It might be a good idea to wait till after the meal, that way you'll have an easy out if they don't take it well.
Say it proudly. If you announce it with shame in your voice, then they will probably be ashamed of you. I got pregnant at 19 (had twins), and I remember that when I told people in a way that made it clear I was feeling ashamed, I saw how they looked at me with pity. But when I told people proudly, they reacted with excitement and like it was a cause for celebration.
2006-11-23 11:47:37 · answer #2 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you said, you are both working adults and getting paid well. Don't worry about the fact that the two of you were living together because the fact that their daughter is pregnant will pretty much overshadow that. The important thing is to let them know that you are together and you will be taking care of their daughter and future grandchild. I hope everything works out for you, your girlfriend, and your baby!!
2006-11-23 11:51:49 · answer #3 · answered by jjodom1010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a successful independent guy, be 100% proud of everything you have and will achieve!
Congrats on the news, so stand tall and make a toast if you have to! Hold her close as you smile and look at eachother then spill it, as long as you and her are happy then nothing else matters.
Family are meant to help not hinder.
2006-11-23 12:00:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what if you guys decided to get married? When the baby os born what are you going to do, shove it in a closet? Are you going to keep that from them, too? What I am trying to say is that they cant stop you. It might turn out well, you never know. So if it dosnt, it dosnet mean that you guys have to break up and not love each other. (unless that is something she would do!!) Everything is going to be FINE!
2006-11-23 11:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in fact, you wanting to sneak around with boys is quite lots futile at this point. the only solid area approximately sneaking around is the adrenaline rush coming with possibility-the possibility of being caught and punished. on the grounds that your mom's effective with it, no possibility=no adrenaline=boring. they are literally in basic terms attempting to be available :) i'm fourteen and that i know how awkward it somewhat is, yet believe me this is greater advantageous than mom and dad not bothering or being overprotective. Do your self a favour and don't try sneaking around; you have have been given the perfect stability mutually with your mum on the 2d of being available yet not nosy, and in case you sneak around she'll lose believe in you and start up consistently asking you approximately boys. in basic terms carry out with boys in case you pick to! in case you get a boyfriend, tell your mom yet additionally say this is not a brilliant deal and you do not would desire to communicate approximately it. She'll take the hint. She's in basic terms worried :) Karah x
2016-10-13 00:06:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it - maybe there will be less of a scene.
And remember no matter what they say tonight as soon as they hold that grand baby all will be good, baby's have a way of turning us grand parents into mush.
2006-11-23 11:48:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be overprotective too
he doesnt like you especially since you are the guy who knocked up his little girl
Good Luck with the family gig
2006-11-23 11:44:38 · answer #8 · answered by Mopar Muscle Gal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is your baby and your girlfriends of course not her parents
they cant tell you what to do
if you two love each other as much as it sounds i would not worry about nothing and be happy you are having a little baby and tell her parents to be happy cause she is having a baby
good luck and congrats
2006-11-23 11:47:48 · answer #9 · answered by blackhairedbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I woul dpull them aside and tell him, it might be a bad idea to talk to them in front of the entire family.
2006-11-23 11:44:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋