My friend sleeps(not sex) with her b/f some nights. Should she be worried he's gonna feel her up while she sleeps?? Can She trust him?? I am worried. She was raped b4 and now, I will feel like it's my fault if it happens again. Will he abuse her trust??
2006-11-23 11:35:55 · 9 answers · asked by Makoa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Should I tell her I am worried??
2006-11-23 11:39:58 · update #1
Should I tell her not to. He's a great person everywhere he goes.
2006-11-23 11:41:42 · update #2
You two are Friends, and Friends should be able to talk to each other. It takes a good Friend to reach out when They feel it is necessary. It is easier to turn away. You will have to go about it carefully as to not pit Yourself against Him, in Her eyes.
Just follow Your heart.
God Bless
2006-11-23 11:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your instincts. If you really feel, not just out of fear but seriously feel, that you can`t trust him, go with that. Don`t take your feelings towards the guy who raped your friend beofer and put that on him. He didn`t do that, so you have to treat him like you would treat any other guy. I would also say that you should try to trust your friend`s judgement unless your instincts are telling you there`s something wrong.
2006-11-23 11:44:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really a personal thing... If the boyfriend can be trusted than he can be trusted... If he's not a good person than he can't... It boils down to the kind of person he is in general (In public, with his friends, with your friend)...
If your friend feels comfortable with sleeping with him, then you should accept that as it is ultimataly her choice... Should anything happen know that it was not your fault, it is your friend who has chosen to go out with this guy...
2006-11-23 11:40:08 · answer #3 · answered by C.G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though I respect your concern as her friend, this will be up to her. If she feels she can trust him, then she does. Apparently, she's not worried.
Go ahead and express your concerns, lovingly of course, and then trust her decision. It is, after all, her boyfriend. And should another rape occur, God forbid, that is not your fault. Nor is it hers.
2006-11-23 11:46:13 · answer #4 · answered by Infamous B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing about this situation would be your fault. It is her choice whether or not to trust him, and apparently she does right now. Relax. If she's big enough to sleep over, then she can handle this one on her own.
2006-11-23 11:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is a good friend, I would let her know of your concerns. But don't be upset with her if she doesn't follow your suggestions. That would be a mistake for sure. To answer about "he is good wherever he goes", sometimes good people make good rapists as well. You can't judge him either way, nor would I. But do let her know your thoughts on this.
2006-11-23 12:36:10 · answer #6 · answered by knownothing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think thats between them. your not part of there relationship, ur jsut a friend! I know your jsut tryign to be a freind but dont over do it. and keep this to your self.
ok. good luck<33
2006-11-23 11:43:09 · answer #7 · answered by FairChild 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sleeps with her b/f (not sex) and you're worried about it?
You really need to see a psychiatrist, or to get your head out of you asss.
2006-11-23 11:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you should trust him but dont risk it!
2006-11-23 11:39:10 · answer #9 · answered by Raine[: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋