I have had two councelling meetings at uni due to an illness but i am afriad to go as she makes me feel nervous and i dont trust her with personal info, is this wrong did i make a mistake?
2006-11-23 11:29:39 · 17 answers · asked by Tiamat 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
When ever you need counselling you should always be able to talk to someone that you feel comfortable with. I've had to speak with many different counsellors. You need to find the counsellor that will best meet your needs. Don't feel guilty. Not every counsellor can make all their patients feel comfortable, it's not your fault. Your focus should be your health and doing what you need to do to get better.
2006-11-23 11:41:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes becuase counselling is a relationship you need to build if you are going to make it work for you, making excuses like not "trusting" and her making you feel nervous will only serve to prolong your difficulty.
The truth is you a scarred to deal with the problems that led you to counselling, that's fine, who wouldn't be?
But why not tell her this instead of opting out and adding to your torment, you would not be asking this question if you felt you had made the correct decision.
Another issue is that really you don't trust yourself and you feel nervous to start talking even though you are probably longing too. Don't project these feelings on to the counsellor because that just gives you the excuse to give up, if you do give up then really it is yourself you are giving up on. Give it another go and set yourself a review deadline of say 3 months. You'll be glad you did.
2006-11-23 19:44:37 · answer #2 · answered by bumbleboi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. I'm positive about this. In order for a therapist to be effective, you must have mutual trust. Find a therapist who listens, understands, and who you're comfortable with. Or, you can do like I did, and find some books that will help. Doctors, counsellors, and therapists are all human beings, not gods. There are good ones and bad ones and a whole bunch in between. There's a very good chance your instincts did you a favor.
2006-11-23 21:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Peachy® 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no wrong, if you feel nervous, & feel you don't trust her to disclose sensitive, personal info, then thats ok; What i would suggest is don't give your self a hard time about it, also maybe be honest to the counsellor, take a risk tell her how you feel when your around her, you might be suprised by the outcome, which will tell you something about yourself. By the way she cannot make you feel like anything, they are your feelings, that you are in control of. Maybe she reminds you of somebody else, or something she does reminds you of someone or something from your past.I truly feel that honesty is the best option, & you dont have to ever speak to thius woman again, it is totally your choice. oh & you only make a mistake if your not aware of the possible outcome, if your aware of the possible outcome from your actions, then it is not a mistake, it is a choice.
2006-11-23 19:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This may sound a bit odd, but try one more session and talk to HER about it. It may really help you with trust if you find out that she's understanding and helpful about your concern. "Jane, I'm a lttle anxious about our meetings. I'm not sure if it's because we might not click, or maybe it's my own fears about the counseling itself. Do you have any thoughts on what I should do?" If she's uncooperative or defensive, then by all means DUMP HER. You might find that she's very helpful and it really improves your comfort level. Talking through this difficult situation may be therapeutic for you as well. Good luck and stick with a counselor SOMEWHERE!
2006-11-23 20:09:56 · answer #5 · answered by rollo1603 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't advise cancelling counselling altogether. If you don't trust her why don't you see if you can find a different counsellor. I used to have counselling and I had my counsellor changed because I just couldn't talk. Or, maybe you're just worried about what you have to say, and maybe you have stuff you need to get off your chest. Maybe, just maybe, you should get it all over and done with. =)
2006-11-23 19:39:23 · answer #6 · answered by ]x[Jodie]x[ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel bad about changing, go out and find somebody you can talk to. you should feel you can trust the person you are talking to if not you are not with the right person. you will not know if you can really trust somebody untill you let your guard down and allow them to help you.
2006-11-23 19:46:05 · answer #7 · answered by Airhammer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not at all, if you dont feel comfortable then shes not right for you, find a new clinc in you area and stay in counseling until you have gained the trust and over come this 'illness'
2006-11-23 19:32:43 · answer #8 · answered by ocfan 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it is wrong at all. Councelling is a personal thing and if you don't feel comfortable, then it is for you, and only you to decide what is best.
(Just my two pence) : )
2006-11-23 19:42:19 · answer #9 · answered by TornadoAnglia 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not at all, you've got to pick a therapist you're comfortable with. This therapist didn't work for you, so try and find one that you "click" with. Your therapist is very important, if you can't trust them, then it will not work.
Keep looking until you find a therapist that's right for you.
2006-11-23 19:33:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋