A married man I work with asked for my phone number, I gave it to him thinking it was work related. (b/c I use my cell phone for work)
He told me that his marrage is not working out. He says that he really likes me, and hes really cute too. I want to be friends with him and told him that. He asked to kiss me and I said that I dont feel comfortable because hes married.
Do I just stay away, remain friends or what. Very confused.
2006-11-23 11:26:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, in this instance, I'd say stay away. Getting caught up in something like that is insane, trust me. And because he says the marriage isn't working doesn't mean he's being honest. Maybe it's not working because he's being unfaithful.
I am friends with guys who are married, some I knew before and some I met with their wives. I make it a point to talk to their wives too. He wouldn't have an issue with that if he's really just trying to be platonic.
Keep it platonic, strictly. No dinner dates, or movie dates, maybe occasional lunches. Keep the phone calls brief and to the point. If he needs to vent frustration and you WANT to be a listening ear, go ahead. But don't be his out. He needs to deal with that marriage and it's so not your job to be his escape. If he's truly unhappy, he'll divorce her and if after the divorce is final (papers in hand) he wants to pursue something with you, then consider it if you want.
2006-11-23 11:31:23 · answer #1 · answered by Infamous B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say stay very far away. If his marriage is not working out why is he still married? In all likelihood his marriage is probably fine (until his wife finds out she is married to a dog) and he is just playing around while you might believe him and be sincere in wanting to help him and be there for him and get hurt.
If he ends up getting a divorce then and only then would I even consider a friendship with him. Otherwise I think there's only trouble in a friendship with this man.
2006-11-23 11:44:17 · answer #2 · answered by Hopeful girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres nothing wrong with staying friends, as long as thats as far as it goes. How do you know that hes not lying and has a perfectly good marriage and is just using you as a bootycall? Think of how his wife will feel if she were to find out that her husband lost interest and was cheating. If he's not lying, ask him to prove it by divorcing and then asking you out.
2006-11-23 11:31:52 · answer #3 · answered by Bri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing to do is tell him to figure out what to do with his marriage. He can't have a wife and a girlfriend. It's not right. You need to think before u do anything and remember he's married. Just tell him that you can't be with a married man.
2006-11-23 11:34:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely stay away. Let him know in no uncertain terms that the condition of his marriage is between him and his wife, and you don't want him discussing their personal business with you. Tell him that he can either get himself and his wife into counseling and fix their marriage, or get a divorce, but YOU are not going to insert yourself into their marriage in any way, shape, or form.
2006-11-23 11:29:33 · answer #5 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what feels right for you. I used to be married as well. My marrige wasn't working out when I came accross my current girlfriend, weather or not I met her made no difference, I would have still devorced my wife.
2006-11-23 11:32:33 · answer #6 · answered by nshappe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you want to be friends. Staying away from him probably will send the message that you want to be with but you are scared because he is married.
2006-11-23 11:34:45 · answer #7 · answered by stargirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get involved because No good can come from it u would not like anybody take Ur man y should u someone Else's remember ALL FARE TILL LOVE IS WAR.and if u do it GOD will punish u because the BIBLE says DO ONTO OTHERS AS U LIKE THEM DO ONTO U..if the wife finds out and she's CRAZY she might kill u does he has any kids and if he does even more reason not to do it have u ever herd divorce is hard on the kids..trust me its TRUE.........
2006-11-23 11:43:25 · answer #8 · answered by `Avenging~ghetto~bird` 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If i were you gnor him and let him know your not interested. he may be lying about his marriage and if you start being with him it may ruin his relationship. dont do it to his wife, possibly his kids. think how would u like ur husband having an affair with some lady.
the old saying will do u good..: dont do to others what u ont want done to you.
2006-11-23 11:34:55 · answer #9 · answered by Kalee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay friends with him unless he keeps trying to do things and if the relationship buckles and he ends up single then try something, but for now try to stay friends and not to do anything with him.
2006-11-23 11:30:56 · answer #10 · answered by blacknessforeverandever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋