my uncle came over for thanksgiving. he's 45 + just broke up with his girlfriend who is around 20 something. he does weird stuff like that. i've never been that uncomfortable around him though. but today, he kept staring at me + made me feel awkward. when i was sitting on the coach next to my dog's blanket, he moves it + sits right down next to me. too close. there was a hundred other places to sit. also, when he left + said his goodbyes to everyone including me, after he left, he called + told my mom to tell me that he said goodbye. HE JUST FREAKING DID. it doesn't sound like anything that bad. but i just have this bad feeling + whenever i think about it, i can't help but cry cause i feel so scared now. i feel violated + disgusting now. do i have a right to feel this way or is it no big deal ?
2006-11-23 11:22:07 · 18 answers · asked by yourprettyhot123 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i'm 14 years old.
2006-11-23 11:29:17 · update #1
It sounds like you are making a big deal out f nothing. If nothing happened except for him sitting too close and looking at you then you need to just chill. Every family has a weird uncle and as long as he didn't do anything inappropriate then you have nothing to worry about.
2006-11-23 11:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by bunny 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To be honest this is a difficult question to answer. It could be a situation just like you're afraid it might be. It certainly sounds like it could be that. But there's also a possibility that he was just being friendly with you. I've sat next to my niece and hugged her, just like I would any other member of my family. I would hate to think that sort of thing could be misunderstood as being something else. Is it possible he sensed your discomfort and didn't understand it, and that's why he called back? Still, it does sound strange. In any case I'm not saying it's one way or the other because it's impossible for someone who wasn't there to know for sure. So it's a tough call, but I'd say go with your feelings (which you certainly have a right to -- everyone has a right to their feelings.). So I would go with those feelings and be cautious until you have something more to go on. And yea, tell your parents. But don't do so in an accusing way -- just describe the situation as accurately as you can and ask them what they think. Remember though that they weren't there either, so be cautious no matter what until you get a better handle on the situation.
2006-11-23 11:48:31 · answer #2 · answered by Sagan Legacy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My thing is "Why did you take everything so personal that he did today?" Has he ever done anything to make you feel uncomfortable before? Has anything happened in your life to make you not trust any of your family? It seems to me that you may have been a little sensitive and maybe you have taken his actions the wrong way. On the other hand, if you really have this bad feeling then you should talk to your parents about this incident and then you all can come up with a solution on how to handle this situation.
2006-11-23 12:31:19 · answer #3 · answered by dodatta29 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(I'm assuming you're using plus signs instead of "&")
Yeah, I'd probably feel a bit weirded out if I were in your shoes. I'm not saying that you should do this right away (kinda get yourself back together and everything...), but maybe you should bring this up with your parents.
And you already had Thanksgiving (uncle there for... however long)? Where the heck do you live? (Just curious abot the fact that you had time to have it and everything! Not trying to hit on you or anything, 'cause to me it might seem like I was... God, that felt awkward.)
2006-11-23 11:31:18 · answer #4 · answered by ldnester 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 11:11:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah u totally do. i think u should tell him how u felt. and then tell ur parents that u dont wanna be alone with him, that if ur gonna have to be around him that u refuse to be alone with him. im really sensitive and i would be freaking out if that happened to me, i would trouble going to sleep. but ur prolly not like that. but i dont think ur really worried about whether u have the right to feel that way or not, i think u just want to know if ur being paranoid or u just want to know wat to do.
Tell him and ur parents.
i hope everything works out. =)
2006-11-23 11:53:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You 100% have the right to feel that way if he does something like that again talk to your mom he seems like a perv to me.
2006-11-23 11:26:48 · answer #7 · answered by Stuffy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
geez thats a really tough one. Its really hard to say, because he was just feeling a need to be close to his family, maybe hes loosing his mind. but honestly id say to trust your gut and be on your A game. watch out for yourself, but i wouldnt make a big deal about it yet. You could talk to maybe your mom about it and see what she says.
2006-11-23 11:27:34 · answer #8 · answered by missskirts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your mom how you feel she will set him straight, some come on to any female 12-92 age doesn't matter , he needs to know you are off limits
2006-11-23 11:26:11 · answer #9 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like that then you need to tell your parents how he made you feel.
2006-11-23 11:25:14 · answer #10 · answered by Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋