I've known this guy for over 3 years. We are really good friends and have both wanted something more to happen, but for whatever reason it hasn't (work, school, living in different cities. etc)
In August, we had a big fight and he called me a stupid b----, and told me to have a good life.
So whatever right? I forgot about him and moved on. I went cold turkey, no calls, no texts, no emails.
About a month and a half later, he messages me, asking how I am, how is my family, work, everything. I was really surprised, so I called him on it - he said that even though he said all those thing, he thought that I would have still stayed in touch.
So basically between September and now, we've been saying how its going to be different this time, we're both honest with what we want, etc.
Is he ever going to grow up and be mature, and say he wants me too - or is this a lost cause?
I've told him MANY times what I want from him - but he doesn't do the same
2006-11-23 11:13:52 · 7 answers · asked by Ashleigh H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We're both 23 years old
2006-11-23 11:14:38 · update #1
Personally, I think that situation is drama waiting to happen. If you have clearly said what you need and those needs have gone unmet, that is a sign of immaturity and selfishness. I wouldn't imagine that's a headache you want on a full time basis.
You also have to ask yourself why it took him more than a month to get back to you. If he valued the relationship, he may have given it a week at the most, then tried you and apologized. He did not. To me, that doesn't show he wants you.
He expects you to chase him and he's dangling a relationship in front of you, knowing that's what you want, because the bait will work.
My advice...don't fall for it. Push come to shove, continue the friendship and reassess the relationship part in about 6 months. See how he handles that.
2006-11-23 11:25:07 · answer #1 · answered by Infamous B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, forget that...its a real toll on the mind and body to be mature and have a relationship with someone immature...it's like your thier parent instead of thier significant other....dump em'
2006-11-23 11:23:32 · answer #2 · answered by alfredtwyman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. I'd stop holding out for him. I'm 28 and I still don't know what I want. It isn't likely to change.
2006-11-23 11:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by ye_river_xiv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he has some growing up to do...find a real man.
2006-11-23 11:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by Ronnie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is confused and unsure what to do for this one you have to make the first move and he will follow up
2006-11-23 11:23:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
from my experience if a guy likes you he will do anything for you, move on and step up
2006-11-23 11:16:27 · answer #6 · answered by sexygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think he is worth it.
good luck
2006-11-23 11:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by Raine[: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋