Domestic abuse by a man in the military?

Question

If your husband is in the military and he hits you what can you do? First of all it's not me. I know you can call the police but should you call the Military Police, or his superior officer? Anybody ever delt with this before? The guy is in the Navy. Oh, and he's bi-sexual, can we get him in trouble for that too?

Answer 1

well yeah you can go through his chain of command. or on base it would be the mp.'s but they will just take him for the 72 hour cool down period in the barracks and he'll probably be mad when he comes home. or off base call local police. then theres restraining orders. but if he has a ****** up chain of command he'll get away with everything he does like my ex husband.his whole chain of command lied for him and stuck up for him in court for the domestic violence incidents and hell now hes getting away with murder.

Answer 2

Yes, unfortunately, I have dealt with this before.
If the wife in question lives on a military post, then call the military police, have him arrested and removed from the home.
If the wife lives off post, call the city police, and have him arrested.
Contact his command and request he be assigned to different quarters once he's released. You could also ask if he could be restricted to post. Some commands will do this to help preven any further incidence.
Press charges through the local court system or however the MPs or CID instruct you too. If you're living overseas, it's handled differently from the states but the outcome should still be the same; i.e., he's removed from the home and charges are brought against him.
Get a restraining order whether or not he's restricted to post. These guys know how to slip out when they want.
Get counseling for the abused wife. It is most often offered through the clinics but the community service center may have information about support groups.
As for the other thing, there is the don't ask don't tell policy. I'm sure if a bug was dropped in the right ear, it might go somewhere.

Answer 3

IF he lives off post you must call the civilian police. You can call the Military Police who will work with the civilian police. You have to prove he is Bi-sexual and yes he can get in trouble for that but to stop the domestic abuse you have to act now, the spouse must be willing to press charges and stick with the charges. The commander will move him into the barracks if the spouse lives off post she should seek a court order for protection and seek professional help. I would call the commander only if there is a chance that there would be no more abuse. The commander can only refer him to professional help and the commander need proof he is a Bi-sexual. If you think the abuse will continue then Law Enforcement needs to be involved....now

Answer 4

If this person lives on a military base, then the military police should be called. The wife should seek immediate medical care and assistance from social services.

If this person lives outside of a military base, then the regular police should be called. Again, immediate medical care should be sought, as should assistance from social services.

Sometimes a call to the person's superior officer will help, but not every time. The problem with that approach is that it does not create a permanent record.

Answer 5

I have to go back a few years but when I was in the Army they frowned on domestic abuse.The man could get serious jail ( Brig in navel terms) time if he hit his wife & she charged him with abuse. Ofcourse he had to be convicted first. This also could cause him to get a undesirable discharge. That would keep him from getting any VA benifits.If you live on base call the Shore Patrol Or offbase call the local police. As for being bi- sexual they do not care. The only thing that could get him in trouble is if he were homosexual,they frown on that

Answer 6

There is a "don't ask, don't tell" policy on sexual orientation so you cannot get him in trouble for that. If the abuse occurred on base, then call the MPs, if it happened off base call the civilian police. She can call his commanding officer but don't expect to get anywhere with that. As a dependent, she would be eligible for JAG services to help her with a divorce or whatever legal action she wants to take. JAG or his commanding officer may be able to force him into a treatment program or counseling, but that may just add fuel to the fire if she is not going to leave him.

Answer 7

I'm an ARMY MP if you live on post you need to call the MP"S if off post local law informant, after having done this, contact his chain of command, starting with Squad leader, and platoon SGT. that way they can get him removed from the home, and in to the barracks,, the thing with the BI-sexual issue, is that you can say something about it, but you have to be able to prove it, that is a very sticky subject, as he can say it is slander, or defamation of character, so make sure you have proof of this before making that accusation.

Answer 8

My best friend was abused by her husband in the military.Not a darn thing was done about it,she reported it from the bottom up.One of the commanders even laughed at her,and said "what's the big deal".She went through h***.After her husband raised a shovel to hit one of her children and she stepped in instead,she fled to a shelter.That was used against her and after years of fighting for custody with this abuser,SHE lost custody to him.She had numerous police reports but in the end it didn't matter.They all stuck together,from the on base police to the commanders to the lawyer they found for him.Hope your friends ordeal turns out much better.

Answer 9

surely call protection rigidity police and the civilian police. He can get in worry with mp's and then even as he's done coping with that, he can manage civillian police. communicate such as his commanders and there ought to also be a UVA (Unit sufferer's recommend), who's meant to administration protection rigidity yet when that's someone's husband, they're a depending and if the UVA can no longer help you, they could indicate you contained in the right route. so a techniques as bisexuality, you would might want to get some information probable. purely declaring someone is bisexual won't be able to do a lot.

Answer 10

Omg call the military police and notify his superior officer. He will have to go to special classes on preventing domestic violence and can get arrested etc.