ive been seeing this guy for the last 6 months. he says he loves me, i love him, and things are going great. we've even had sex numerous times, which i think is fine. but now he wants me to be in a threesome with him and his best friend (neitehr are bi-sexual or gay) where i would in the position a man normally is in with two girls on him. im kinda ok with it, but im not really sure. what should i do?
2006-11-23 11:11:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
run away fast as you can .....
it's clear your b/f is with you for 1 reason only .... SEX
he obviously has no respect for you (and you apparently have very little for yourself),
or he would never suggest "sharing" you with his buddy
2006-11-23 11:16:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I find it very odd that two 'straight' male best friends want to have sex together with one of their girlfriends. This may be a way for them to come out as bi with you, whether they say they are or not... or it may be some sort of male-bonding ritual they concocted, but that is being very disrespectful to your needs if so. I think this is something that only you can answer... you need to what makes YOU comfortable and what you feel is best for your needs... if being in a threesome is something you want, then bi all means, indulge your wildest fantasies. If they are both straight, it may become awkward and lead to a lot of residual jealousy. THINK this out carefully before you give him an answer.
2006-11-26 16:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by azcuriousm4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant really say. If your emotionally attracted to women, in the sense that you want to spend the rest of your life with one and so on so forth, you wouldn't be gay. But as far as your physical attraction to men, when you see a guy, are you really attracted to him or do you just admire him? Admiration and attraction are not the same thing. If you just admire nice looking men, your not gay, if your actually attracted to men, that sounds like homosexuality. But you also like girls too. So as of now I'd write you off as Bi curious, possibly bisexual, but not gay or straight. But then agian, you could change how you feel later on. If i were you, I'd just forget about the labels for now and just go with the flow, until you know what you are. It's really not my, or anyone elses place to say weither or not your gay.
2016-05-23 01:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not 100% comfortable with it, DO NOT DO IT.... Like someone else said, it will only lead to a hurt somewhere down the road...
If you do choose to do it however, make sure to get the 3rd party checked out first... I doubt that either you or your partner wants to contract an STD from someone (Yes, he's your mates best friend, but even best friends lie about things some times... Do you want to risk becoming infected or take an extra week to make sure he's clean?)
2006-11-23 11:29:48 · answer #4 · answered by C.G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I cannot tell you what to do. I can only tell you what I would do in this situation and I can tell you that I would tell him no way. To me that's just not something I am into. I would only want to be with one person at a time, and only with my boyfriend. I think threesomes are for people that are not in a loving and satisfying relationship.
2006-11-23 11:16:45 · answer #5 · answered by bunny 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not a good idea. If you should sleep with the other guy, your boyfriend is going to be jealous. He may have thoughts that you like the sex better with his friend. It will ruin the relationship if you do it.
2006-11-23 11:16:14 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really loved you he would not want to share you with someone else....and how are you going to feel when they brag about it and everyone knows your a sl ut? Tell im he can have sex with his best friend and you'll just watch.........
2006-11-23 11:17:20 · answer #7 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok I don't think I could it's like he wants to share you with his friends I think if you do it once he'll keep bringing his other friends around thinking maybe they could get some too I don't know but I got into a situation simmaliar to yours and I did let him do it and then he kept brings all his homies around and he got mad at me when I told him no and them. . . I wouldn't do it. . . It's your choice though
2006-11-23 11:19:43 · answer #8 · answered by Smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...
Never ever allow another man in your bed..
This is a very bad sign..
You need to find another b/f..
No real man who wants a real relationship will ever share
his woman with another man...
It will destroy your relationship..
A 3some with yourself, another woman and your b/f is
usually safe..
Only you may invite the other woman and he may never contact
or speak to her outside of the bedroom...
2006-11-23 11:16:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That may not be a good idea. It may backfire on you where he gets extremely jealous and decides to break up with you...trust me. I've had veeeeery similar experiences.
2006-11-23 11:15:48 · answer #10 · answered by Bri 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you decide to do it, I just hope it's because you want it. Don't do it to make him happy if you are uncomfortable with it. If you do go for it, have fun with it. By the way, they will tell everyone.
2006-11-23 11:16:05 · answer #11 · answered by Milan J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋