well umm.. my cousin's da died about a month or so ago and his mom and uncle are planning to keep it from him for as long as possible when they know that he really wants to go see his dad for the summer that is comming and they think that the longer they keep it from him the less harsh it will be on him well i would like to know if you think that this is a good idea and by the way out of all the people under 18 in the family on this childs side i am the only one that knows his father is dead...............
2006-11-23 11:01:34 · 8 answers · asked by that one girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's really a bad choice. They should not make the assumption that he can't handle the news of his father's death. He is going to find out any eventually so they may as well tell him now before he becomes resentful because they withheld the news.
It really sounds like the adults cannot handle the emotions he may display. It really is their issue with grief not his.
2006-11-23 11:05:22 · answer #1 · answered by Laughing Libra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The longer they take to tell him then the harder it will be on him.
How would you like it if one of your parents died and those who knew never told you. Then one year later you discover that they are dead. Won't you ask yourself, Where was i for that year? An entire year my mother/father gone.
You will feel like s*** for not having been there when it happened. People withdraw from life in situations like these.
I think it would be best to tell the person as soon as possible. So then you could help him get through a difficult time.
Death should not be hidden it is a natural part of life. as soon as someone is born another dies.
We were born to die. its just the way of life.
2006-11-23 11:13:21 · answer #2 · answered by Adrian R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I do not think that that is the right way to deal with a situation like that, I've seen the result before. Not only will he be upset by the fact that he was lied to but it could cause further psychological dispositions. More than likely he will be even more upset by the matter if he is lied to about it all, nightmares are also very likely going to cause him confusion and depression aswell. Honesty is always the best way to go about things it will make coping with such a loss much easier. I suggest you talk to his mom with your opinions on the matter and bring it to her attention that if she is not honest with her son it could cause many problems in their relationship. Hope all works out for the best.
2006-11-23 11:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by Kianha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i personally think that it's not. he has a right to know now. and if he finds out that they have been keeping it from him for so long then he will just be upset and that will add even more to the hurt he will already be feeling. it will only make matters worse. besides no matter how long they keep it from him he will react just the same when he hears it for the first time, even if it did happen forever ago.
2006-11-23 11:05:28 · answer #4 · answered by Kris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-29 09:35:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wonderful first they do not tell him his dad has died but to help matters along they want to lie to him , nice parents and family
2006-11-23 11:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just awful! i don'tthink anyone has the right to keep thsi news fromthat child. it is very unfair they need to let him know that his father has passed away the more they wait the more its going to hurt.
2006-11-23 11:06:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think thats a horrible choice. the child deserves to know, even if he isnt going to see him for a while...thats really sad...
2006-11-23 11:28:14 · answer #8 · answered by Gina G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋