people ask y i didnt give my daughter up for adoption y do u think i say because i am going to try to take care of her the best with my husband by the way im 13 and i didnt give her up because i got atached to her she was so cute that is y and y do u think i wouldn't have givin her away
2006-11-23 10:49:18 · 9 answers · asked by girly_not_girly 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Not to be mean but I had a hard time understanding what exactly you were trying to ask but here goes my opinion: Being a parent is the most important thing you will ever do. With that said you have to be completely selfless and if giving the baby up for adoption is the best thing for her then that is the most selfless thing a parent could do. Taking in account your age and lack of education you make want to consider your options. Are you going to be able to provide food, diapers, a nice home, love, patience and tons of everything else it requires to be a good parent. Even under the best circumstances parenting can be quite challenging. Hopefully you have a strong support system(mother, father,aunts,friends,etc.) to assist you with your baby. Do yourself and your child a favor and take some parenting classes. Free classes are given you just need to search for them. Ask your local hospital, WIC office or medicaid office. Someone will lead you in the right direction. Also visit your local Health Clinic, they can help you with determining what birth control you can use. Best of luck to you and your baby.
2006-11-23 11:25:06 · answer #1 · answered by meaty_okra 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW...That is young. If I had a baby at 13, I would not have given it up either, so I guess I can understand. I have always loved children. You didn't say how old your husband was, but if he hasn't completed high school, he needs to do so and so do you. If you want to do what good for your child, complete your education, so that when she gets in school, you can help her and she will always know that you tried to give the best and you can do it. I had a young cousin who had her first child at 13 and she could read well enough to read bedtime stories to her children. She went to night school and learned to help her children. By 21, she had 3. She has been a wonderful mother and has taught her children very well. You can the same. Just hang in there young Mommy and do what right for your child. I wish you very much luck and I will keep you in my prayers. God Bless you....
2006-11-24 17:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by Dyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was adopted at birth because my 18-year old birthmother and 19-year old birthfather were not ready to get married and have kids yet. They were too young to care for and provide a family for a child. At age 13, you are still a child yourself. You don't have a high school diploma, don't have any college or real job experience, aren't in any position to support a baby, and are unprepared for mothering. With that in mind, people are asking you why you didn't place the baby for adoption because they 're wondering why you wouldn't have wanted your daughter to be raised by people who are old enough and prepared enough to be parents.
I'm not saying this to be hurtful to you, and I don't mean it as an attack, but stop and think: it's hard enough to make it financially in today's society, and even HARDER to keep a marriage and home intact. And you're not ready to be a parent in such a society. Sure, you might "make it by" somehow, but is that what's best for your little girl? This is one time in your life when you need to consider what is best for the baby in the long run (which, by the way, has nothing to do with how cute she is or how much you feel attached to her).
And don't think of adoption as "giving her away"...think of it as making provision for her to have the best--an established home with an established couple who are stable, financially secure, and ready to be parents. Yes, it would be painful. But in your case, people might be asking you why you didn't because they honestly think it would have been the right thing to do for your baby.
2006-11-23 13:34:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a mom at 13 is going to be tough. It's tough at any age, even when you are in your 20's or 30's and married. I hope that you have an excellent support group (parents, aunts, uncles, etc.) who will help you make the right decisions in raising your daughter. I hope you plan to continue your education so that you can provide for your daughter in case her father doesn't provide for her.
Good luck. I know I would never be able to give up a child.
2006-11-23 14:19:00 · answer #4 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So basically you were being selfish. *You* didn't give her up because *you* were attached to her. So, it is all about *you* rather than the best interest of this child. Wow, it sounds like you'll be a great mother and provider. This child has a lot to look forward to. She already has a mother who can type and spell so well.
2006-11-23 11:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by Amelia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 11:08:35 · answer #6 · answered by rybicki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to continue to go to school and learn grammar and punctuation.
2006-11-23 11:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by joeanonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats young.
2006-11-23 10:52:16 · answer #8 · answered by Nobody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UR THIRTEEN?!!! wow thats is young. im thirteen! well u love her. and u would be wondering if shes in good hands. duh.
2006-11-23 10:58:36 · answer #9 · answered by Shmily P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋